Hi SpicyCurry! I'm new to this forum as well as to fibromyalgia. I've been diagnosed for less than a year and I've only posted once. I wanted to respond to you because I have been a church employee for the past 20 years. As with most things, there is good and bad. First of all, the church I'm employed by does not offer health insurance. Thank God my husband has good insurance and I've been on his policy since before fibro. It was a great place to work when my children were small for the same reasons you mentioned. The pastor and other employees are very understanding about my health problems and have been a great support to me. I also live close by and go home at lunchtime to relax a bit.
On the other hand, it's very hard to work in a job where you have to be "on" most of the time. The bulk of my work time is spent with church members and they expect me to be upbeat and lively! Some days, I can hardly put one foot in the front of the other, as you well know! My job performance is measured by the people who are involved in my programs, so I feel like I have to keep it all bottled up inside and put on a happy face even when I don't feel well. It's also hard on bad days when I know I'm responsible for programs. I have to somehow inform participants that I'm not well or find someone to fill in for me, which isn't easy in a church setting. We don't have a sub list like some other professions. It adds a lot of stress!
I haven't told many people about my fibro because the couple I did tell started telling me how to cure myself. Everyone on this forum knows it isn't that easy! So when I cancel programs, the bulk of the people involved don't know exactly why. Eventually, I will have to tell them, but I'm just not ready for that yet.
All that being said, I know from reading posts on this forum that there are teachers, nurses...all types of vocations represented here who face a lot of the same issues. I just thought it might help you to hear my personal experience in working for a church. I will pray that you will be led to the right decision for you and your family.