girlfriend crying hrs a day and idk what to do please help

Hi, This is going to be fairly descriptive so please bare with me. My girlfriend has fibromyalgia and allergies to just about everything. We've been dating for a year now and in the past month she's been crying hours a day everyday to the point where the salt in her tears are leaving marks on her face. She takes norcos, fentynol patches a few times recently, any pills she can get her hands on. Idk what to do, she starts crying everytime she hurts herself accidently(ex: stubbing her toe, breaking a nail etc), which she does several times a day. She says all the time she wants to die, she gets hysterical over the littlest things. Shes very stressed about moving, her moms moving to the state, and shes been arguing alot with me, her grandma her dad, and just cant seem to see the good in anything anymore without allowing the bad to overshadow the good. She says she doesnt have a drug problem, and judging by some of the other posts ive read maybe she doesnt. But the constant uncontrollable crying continues even with the meds, and things are only getting worse. And for the next month shes gonna be staying with me and my mom, so i just dont know what to do. I try to be supportive and loving and everything but im at a loss here. assistance on what to do, how to be more supportive in the right way would be anything would be greatly appreciated, as well as advice for what she and her family should do as well. Thank you!

I edited your post, CB, to comply with forum rules.  Thanks for understanding.

Debbie

Post Edited By Moderator (Acheybody) : 3/20/2013 12:23:17 AM (GMT-6)

It sounds as if depression is the 'problem' here. Encourage her to see a therapist. It's real easy to become unhappy with your body and the pain, your life and things that you can no longer do. But a negative attitude really hurts everyone.

Good luck.

Welcome concerned boyfriend. As I was reading your post my past life came back to me. I use to be on all those drugs at one time to. As a retired nurse and as a fibro patient myself it sounds like she is in a viscious cycle. The narcotics work for so long and then your body becomes very dependent on them. The narcotics will actually cause more pain at times. They will cause severe depression also. My family actually step in to help me. I would of never guess that narcotics could cause you more pain, but they did. I decided I wanted help and need some professional guidance in all this. I went to a rehab place so I could learn how to cope with pain without narcotics. Your girlfriend is probably dependent and doesn't realize how the narcotics are causing her more pain and depression. As soon as I got off my meds I was so much better. My depression is gone and my pain is controlled by other methods. If she is only 18 and doesnt make a change it's only going to get worse. I started out young down the same path and I made everybody life around me miserable. The best gift you could give her is some help.

You can control fibro pain through many ways. There are great books out there to read. This is one of the best forum to learn how to manage your fibro. Narcotics are not a bad thing to take when in pain. But I can tell by your post that it seems your girlfriend has some issues with the narcotics. I hope your family can get together and offer her some help. Good luck.

Post Edited (ak angel) : 3/20/2013 6:17:44 PM (GMT-6)

When I first was diagnosed with fibro, after the relief of finding out what was wrong, I too got very depressed, and when you think about it, at 18 realising you are going to be in pain for the rest of your life is depressing.
I was suicidal, or more just wanting to die rather than being in pain "all the time" for whatever life I had left.
When you live with pain, it can seem you are in pain "all the time" which of course, is not actually true, but it can seem like it, if your girlfriend takes norco, she probably does have periods where she is not in pain, and it's best to help her realize that the pain has stopped right now.
I had to start keeping a pain diary, I had an alarm on my phone, and it would ring every 30 minutes, I would stop what I was doing, and do a self check of pain levels.
I then extended it to a general life diary, noting, when I ate, if there was any relationship between what I ate and how I felt, what effect going for a slow walk, sitting using the computer, anything done during the day, start making a study of my illness, it was amazing the little things i found out. But start with just what pills she took, what time, what her pain levels are right now. Try to get some prospective.

Cheers Lynn