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Posted 4/19/2013 11:16 PM (GMT 0)
I recently met a girl, she has been suffering from MS for 14 years and I've had fibro for a good 18 years. We definately enjoy each other's company.

The thing is, I'm worried if I'd lose her to MS prematurely. She's a fighter, but sometimes, there are things you just can't fight.

Deep down I still hope it'll work. It'd be nice to have someone who would truly understand my condition and vice versa, and would be nice to be able to cover for each other.

Any comments?
Posted 4/19/2013 11:30 PM (GMT 0)
When we got married young, we didn't know when we were older that he'd have high blood pressure & diabetes and that I would have Fibromyalgia. What if we could've known? Would we have bailed out then, then our 27 years together wouldn't have happened. We wouldn't have 4 kids. If you find someone you like, they (and you) are more than any medical condition. Life isn't worth living without love, in my opinion.
Posted 4/19/2013 11:37 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Apple,

You've got a point. However, my worries is we both suffers from cronic pain, and I'm 99% certain that I am developing arthritis. Scientifically/ according to stats, people suffering with MS is very lightly to be robbed 10 years off their life.

I guess at the end of the day, it sound like if I have one day left to live would I have that one day of happiness. For the the answer is definately yes.

Thanks for your comment.
Posted 4/19/2013 11:45 PM (GMT 0)
Well, I know two people with MS...one is in her late 60's and the other is 58.  Both are still productive and happy.   Annette Funicello lived to be 70.  The disease can go into remission for years.  I would go for it...miracles in medicine happen every day!
Posted 4/20/2013 4:35 AM (GMT 0)
There's a man on the chronic pain board who has had cancer for 6 years and suffers chronic pain, his wife also has chronic pain - both are on what I'd consider pretty heavy duty pain regimens. It seems like they do well together (from what I've read) and it sounds like they've been together a long time.

For me, my DH is 46 and has ZERO health problems. He's had two eye infections in the last five years, both from fishing and touching his eye... that's it beyond occasional colds. I sometimes feel I am holding him back. Who am I kidding? I feel that way pretty much every day. :)
Posted 4/20/2013 1:46 PM (GMT 0)
I would never let illness stand in the way of true love. If you really love her and she really loves you I would go for it. It's hard to find true love...even when we were healthy. But if you love one another and work as a team there is so much you can do.

Also. as Vestabula said, there are miracles in medicine every day. Just imagine if a few years down the road there is a cure for MS or fibro and you let her slip through your fingers because of these illnesses. Talk about regret!

My husband never expected me to get all the illnesses I have (see signature) and I definitely never expected him to have severe depression and heart disease that took him from me when he was only 51 years old, but I would do it all over again because I really loved, and still love, him very much. Golly, you could marry a totally healthy person who could be in a car accident and end up paralyzed or worse. We don't know what the future holds for us so live in the present.

Sherrine
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