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Posted 7/24/2013 4:47 PM (GMT 0)
I broke down today in HR at work...im finding 4 days a week, with 2 kids (3&5) too much to handle, with a 40 min commute each way

I said I can't cope with this, even though I love my job, i will have to drop to 2 days at most and change department...I have been in the design studio for 10 years. I will probably have to go in the call centre as there are no other creative jobs there.

This is probably going to help though, as my family are getting none of me. I can't pick my little boy up from school and if I worked 2 days or none I could do this

I have next week off work holiday, to mull this over and make sure I am making the right decision. Perhaps when the kids are both at school and I have a better hold of this fibro, I can look for an arty job nearer to home

Am I doing the right thing?

This has been plaguing me
Posted 7/24/2013 4:49 PM (GMT 0)
Can you try cutting back and see how it goes? It seems with fibro, we have to do this sometimes. Things just get to be too much. That would be a good way to cut back and still keep your job. Do what you need to do for you.

Hugs, Karen...
Posted 7/24/2013 4:55 PM (GMT 0)
they wont let me drop hours in my current role, I would have to move department...my role is the only design one and I am trained in this.

It would mean moving to the call centre or somewhere like that as they are the only place that accommodates 2 days in the company

I am feeling so unwell at work all the time, due to lack of sleep...I think I have chronic fatigue also, so this isnt helping.

My decision is to lose my dream job and work in the call centre, for the sake of my health and family...which in the long run is the most important thing.

Or do I hold out and see if I can do all of it, as its still early days in my fibro / cfs journey :o(
Posted 7/24/2013 11:23 PM (GMT 0)
I really don't have any answers - sorry! I hope you can make a decision you feel comfortable with.

Here's a way that you can find out what you really want to do: grab a coin and designate one choice to heads and the other to tails. Flip it in the air to see which lands up: heads or tails. No, I'm not suggesting you make a decision based on a coin flip. But what happens is, when that coin is in mid air, you suddenly know which way you want it to land. Of course, what you want may not coincide with what you feel is right, but it would be helpful to know how you really feel about things.

This year, I made the decision to take a leave of absence for a semester from uni to learn how to control my condition. It has left me feeling somewhat depressed because I am not really doing what I love to do anymore - even though I still have a couple deferred assessments to work on, so I am doing something. I'm just not learning new stuff, which is what I love to do. Or maybe I'm feeling down because I can't seem to do stuff when I try to do it. I don't know. It also made me feel down (while I was still doing uni) to try to do homework but not being able to cope with it. So... Guess I'm saying that both failing at something you love and not doing something you love can get you down. But you've got your family to look after - and you love them, right? You'd still be doing purposeful stuff: a part-time job, training and teaching and loving your kids, housework...

Don't know if that helps or not
Posted 7/25/2013 6:41 PM (GMT 0)
Ugh.. Isn't it horrible to feel this way. I'm facing the same problem as we speak. I just came back from a week vacation and last night was my second day back to work. It was such a struggle and now I'm in a complete flare up. Unfortunately when I'm in a flare up I become such a brat. (According to hubby) I may have to quit before the year is up.
My health, marriage and family are more important.

I don't have a career or even love my job for that matter. I can't image giving up a dream job. Good luck to you.

Xoxo
Posted 7/25/2013 7:15 PM (GMT 0)
it is horrible

I think i have made a decision to take some more sick leave (im still due some) to get me through this bad spell...then when I go back I will try 2 days a week in a different role...at least I can still have my foot in the door, but 2 days will be so much easier than what I do now

How many days do you work? How many children do you have?
Posted 7/26/2013 6:27 AM (GMT 0)
I'm still at 5 days a week but no more than 5 hours a day. I was at 4 days and that was tough. I need to go back to my dr and get another note with a 4 day / 5 hour limitation.

I just increased my gabapentin to 300mg a night. I might see if that works before I drop another day.

I have a 8 year old and an 18 year old..both boys. 3rd grade and a senior in high school. Both equally stressful but in very different ways.

Lol
Xoxo
Posted 7/26/2013 6:36 AM (GMT 0)
I know that was a hard decision. It was one I made last year. My job was physically demanding but I loved it. When my shift was over my fibro would be so bad that just walking was incredibly painful. I made the decision because I didn't want to hurt anyone at work because my pain was making me really bad at moving people. I also wanted a reprieve from my pain. Plus, I was working a 12 hour shift, 5 days a week. The fifth wasn't supposed to happen but someone was always calling in. My hours made it hard to spend much time with the kids.

I still miss the job but I think I made the right decision. I'm going back to school this fall to pursue a degree in clinical lab sciences. I'm more than halfway there with my credits. I figure with that job I'd still be helping people but with a much lower physicality involved. Maybe that's something you could look at, going back to school.
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