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Posted 8/28/2013 7:51 AM (GMT 0)
Here I go again trying not to get upset with Dr's. I have been so stressed and tearful this week because their lack of compassion. I needed some paper work fillled out for my long term insurance. I usually had no problem before, but this was a new Dr. I had to change because my old one didn't accept Medicare.

So I nicely tried to explain what I needed. She wasn't going to fill it out at first. Then I told her who is because your my main Dr. Then she tried to go about how Medicare doesn't pay for her to fill this out. Then I said, well I have no choice to get it done. So what ever happen to yes, I can fill this out and this is just being part of being a Dr. You talking about tearful. Then she agreed to fill it out on my cost, but refused to fill out my lifting capability. So now I have to go to another Dr. To beg to get that filled out. What makes me mad is I can't lift no more then 5 pounds due to my metal neck? That is no brainier and easily to mark this. So frustrated.

I went to see my Psy Dr. Today and she was happy to fill her part out. She didn't ever say it will cost you out of your pocket. Night and day difference between to Dr's. She mention we are suppose to be advocates for you. Now she is a Dr.

I hope after this paper work gets done maybe I will find a more personel Dr. that doesn't mind to fill it out. I hope their are still Dr's that are out there that want to be an advocate for you.

Sometimes people wonder why I stay away from Dr's as much as I can, this is the reason.

Post Edited (ak angel) : 8/28/2013 1:54:20 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 8/28/2013 1:03 PM (GMT 0)
That is so infuriating. I wouldn't have been able to hold back from replying 'oh, so you got into medicine for the money. Good to know.'

And my psych was like that too. He would fill out my fmla paperwork day and night if it meant that I would feel better. What a difference!
Posted 8/28/2013 1:15 PM (GMT 0)
I predict that this will get worse, before it gets better.

Sorry you had a rough time!
Posted 8/28/2013 2:13 PM (GMT 0)
Wow. Sorry that happened to you. I realize that doctors are very busy people, but filling out paperwork is part of the job. I mean, for heaven's sake, it isn't as if you asked her to make a house call, just fill out a paper. rolleyes If you can find another doctor, maybe that is something you should explore. I agree with Myself09, I don't see the relationship getting any better. But your Psy doctor's behavior does prove that there are doctors out there who will work with you.

Take a deep breath, realize that what you were asking was completely justified and normal, and understand that the problem was her and not you. I'm sure there are more professional, compassionate doctors out there, and I hope it doesn't take you too long to find another. I had to do that with a rheumy once. The first one I went to was a complete jerk. The next one was kind and compassionate. It sometimes just takes trial and error. Good luck.

(((Hugs))) - Austen
Posted 8/28/2013 4:50 PM (GMT 0)
Ach - what a jerk! Sorry, Angel. It's hard enough, having to deal with what we do, without the very people who are supposed to be helping us throwing up roadblocks.

I agree with Anna's response - that's what I'd like to say, too - but I'd be like you, unable to keep from tearing up. Unfortunately. If it was for one of my kids, I'd be all claws, but somehow, for myself, it's not so easy. ?

But yes, hopefully you can find a better doctor before too long. Do you have any choices?

Debbie
Posted 8/28/2013 5:03 PM (GMT 0)
Angel, I'm sorry that your doc was so crude...lacking compassion is a bad trait for a doc. Wishing you luck in finding a wonderful doctor.

Hugs, Robin
Posted 8/28/2013 8:26 PM (GMT 0)
I agree with Austen.  I would be looking for a new doctor.  I wouldn't darken her doorstep again.  I have never heard of such a thing.  The paperwork HAS to be filled out by your doctor and, right now, she is it!

I also can't believe she is charging you for filling out the papers.  Talk about unprofessional.  If you find another GOOD doctor before you have paid this fool, pay her in pennies.   devil   She can spend time wrapping them.   

 

Sherrine

Posted 8/28/2013 9:09 PM (GMT 0)
My rhuemy says he won't fill out forms from SSDI because he can't do the assessments they require of me.
Posted 8/28/2013 9:57 PM (GMT 0)
The forms were sent to several of my doctors and they all filled them out without saying a word. I had total cooperation with my doctors. I guess I didn't know how blessed I was with them.

Sherrine
Posted 8/30/2013 3:20 AM (GMT 0)
It didn't surprise me when I went to pick up the forms for my long term that they were not completed. She didn't even sign her name to what was filled out. All she had to do it draw a line in what she wouldn't fill out and sign her name at the bottom. So they knew who filled in some of the info. She did send a few records, but not much. So I will write a letter to my long term explaining there are more records if needed. I am planning on looking for a new Dr. once this is completed. I don't need to be subjected to this kind of treatment.

I want to thank everyone for making me realize that I shouldn't have to go through this.
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