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Posted 9/7/2013 12:51 AM (GMT 0)
I try not to push myself, I eat healthy, exercise when I am able, try to get a good amount of sleep.
Yet I am having trouble reducing situational stress. I know we all have stress daily, but I am struggling dealing with stress caused by family issues. I know they can't be avoided, so how to I learn not to react?

Did that very thing today, got really upset before I could stop if from happening and now I feel like crap!
Posted 9/7/2013 3:50 AM (GMT 0)
I hear you!! Those flares are soooo bad. Just had a 2 day one last week and cant for the life of me figure out why. My husband really does a lot to keep my stress down to almost nothing, bless him!! I always keep a list of things to do, and he really helps keep that list short. Before my husband I had a bad husband. I had stress every day. Year after year after year. I always felt rotten. Untill one day my adrenal glands shut down. And Bam, I fell flat on my face on the floor. Didnt know what hit me. Of all the therapies i had to do for full recovery, Yoga worked best for stress control. There are many kind of Yoga's out there, so look for one that has gentle stretching of your muscles to relax them. Also meditation helps calm your mind. Have you ever watched Super Soul Sunday on the Own channel? There is a lot of info there on meditation.
Posted 9/8/2013 9:06 AM (GMT 0)
There are many ways to reduce your stress. First thing is educating yourself with some self help books. I get a lot from them. I use those tools I learned to help cope through the day. It can give you some great ideas on ways to reduce your stress. You need to learn how to find outlets to remove yourself from the stress. I like listening to sermons that deal with stress. You can find all this info on the net. Once I reduce my stress I rarely have flares. It does take learning and practice at this.

Yes the own channel on Sunday has some great things to learn from. It remindes me of listening to good sermons on coping with life.

Post Edited (ak angel) : 9/8/2013 3:11:00 AM (GMT-6)

Posted 9/8/2013 12:56 PM (GMT 0)
Stress is the number one cause of my flares. Three weeks ago, school was starting, a pipe burst in a wall and flooded the kitchen and a closet. Our car broke down and would not start, and we found out a foreign investor purchased the home we have leased for three years.

Needless to say I got the worst flare I've had in a long time. There was no escaping it. My recommendation is keep all manageable stress at bay, because you never know when wacky stuff like I mentioned above will occur.
Posted 9/8/2013 2:58 PM (GMT 0)
I am currently taking yoga classes and try to keep away from the drama, but it's really hard when it's your family, spouse etc.

Times are rough which does not help. We had to short sale our house this year, husband was out of work for quite some time, he has his own issues he's dealing with so he's currently undergoing inpatient medical/psychological treatment which sucks up the income he does bring in and will for the rest of the year since he will be there til mid December.

I don't think I can handle a second job, I am just able to do the one I have. Husband is starting a new job that will bring more money so I am praying he can start helping me with the bills. It's very stressful worrying about keeping a roof over your head and food on the table. I don't qualify for food stamps and have cut back on every expense I can think of thus far.

I think I just have to learn to except there is nothing I can do and try to make the best of things, thank you so much for your support.

Sometimes friends and family just don't understand. Well I'm all set for a day of relaxing with kitties, making what meals I can for the week and watching tv. I know it sounds dull, but it's all I can manage
Posted 9/8/2013 3:05 PM (GMT 0)
My suggestion-try to keep the conversation civil and on task. Perhaps both people need to be able to take a time out when emotion starts building. Or, set a specific time to talk and problem solve, when there are no interruptions, and agree to not talk about these things at any other time. Then, both come to the session with a list/agenda, and you decide the agenda of items to be discussed together. The focus of the event ought to be problem solving.

It's so hard to do this effectively when emotions get in the way. I am out of commission for a week after an emotional discussion. it's doubly hard when both partners bring some baggage to the table, which we all do! I get anxious and then hysterical, BF gets anxious and then angry. I plan my theatre training for this... LOL. Anything emotional gets blown up. But, try to approach problem solving like a business.

Enjoy the TV watching. Football!!
Posted 9/10/2013 4:26 AM (GMT 0)
Princess sorry to hear about your situation. I can see why you have many stresses in your life. Sounds like your doing your best in the situation your in. Remember to try to find some postive things in your life. Remember try to do something good for yourself. I am not sure if your spiritual, but I use this for strength.
Posted 9/10/2013 9:46 AM (GMT 0)
I would suggest Counseling, for everyone. I know they have counselors/therapists etc. who specialize in medical issues. Depression, anger, denial, fear, grief, are all emotions that people who have a Chronic Illness and their Family members experience while trying to process the life changing events that are out of everyone's control. You are not alone and neither are they.
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