Diagnosis please?

Hi, Mur2nd, and welcome. We aren't doctors so we don't diagnose but I will give you my guess as to what is going on. This doesn't sound like fibro to me. You have to have pain in all four quadrants of the body that is chronic and we usually have cognitive memory problems plus a myriad of other problems. Your pain is mainly in the groin area from what I understand. Do you have redness at the surgery site? You possibly could have the start of an infection that could be traveling to the testicle area. I would advise you to be checked out by the surgeon or their associates to make sure that isn't happening.

I know you don't want to take pain medication but when you are in pain you tend to tense muscles and that causes more pain. So maybe you want to rethink about taking your pain medication. This could help you and it's only for a short period of time....usually a couple of weeks.

The pain in the arm sounds like nerve pain and you are under a lot of stress...between having your surgery and now what they suggest you do with your pregnancy. Stress can cause so many problems and add to pain.

As far as the doctor's suggestion you terminate the pregnancy, I would definitely get a second opinion. Doctors have been wrong and do make mistakes and that would be tragic. I will be praying for you and your wife and child.

You can read Fibro 101...the first thread on the forum. There are good links about fibro and you will learn a lot there. A good link for you would be the one called A Thorough Explanation of Fibromyalgia. This will give you a better idea if this sounds like what is happening to you.

Do let us know what you think and how you are doing because we do care about you.

Sherrine

I, too, will pray for you, your wife and your child. Sherrine gave some good advice.

Nerve pain can present in different ways. I have burning pain and I have had pain that woke me up while sleeping that felt like a gun blast through my arm. I can only imagine that a gun blast would be as bad as what I felt. I am not a Doctor, just explaining what my nerve pain has done.

Take care.

Loring

Osteoarthritis in Multiple Joints, Fibromyalgia, Neuralgia, Chronic Daily Headaches, I.B., Hard of Hearing...

We've seen three Dr's concerning the baby and we're suppose to see another on Monday. Actually a board of Dr's to decide what to do.
I agree I'm not realizing all the stress. I'm just starting to move around a little and it's hurting thats all. I'll continue to read on about these burning tearing pains I get out of the blue. I know there are others who have this.
Thanks for all the prayers for the baby!

We had friends who were told to terminate their pregnancy for similiar reasons but they chose to believe  and not terminate. Needless to say they have a happy healthy 12 year old boy today! Praying for your family! Remember who the ultimate doctor is!

I was just in the process of responding to your other post, to say that I also have pain in my armpit and down the inside of my arm,but I'm pretty sure my pain is related to disk issues in my neck/ upper back. Reading this post, however, I have to wonder if you are having anxiety attacks due to a combination of all that is going on in your life. I'm so sorry to read that the dr is recommending terminating the pregnancy, I know that has to be really hard on both of you. Dealing with that while also still recovering from your own surgery and feeling like you can't totally be there for your wife, I'm sure makes the situation even harder.

Either way, I'd definitely mention the pains you are having to your Dr. Better safe than sorry, it could be a side effect of medications you've been on, or something they gave you during the surgery. It could just be anxiety, or it might be something else completely.

Decided the pain under both arms and the numbness was due to a pinched nerves in the upper thoracic spine. Now that the pain from the surgery has subsided the tight muscles in my back have loosened. I still have pain but it isn't as intense.
The baby was given a blood transfusion and we go for another ultrasound today. They can tell if a baby is anemic from how fast the blood is going through the brain. Baby is hemorrhaging into the mother's blood stream. Mother was tested and had lots of baby's blood in her veins. Mother has strong immune system. Looks like mothers blood is rejecting the baby and the baby is making more blood to compensate which enlarges the liver spleen and the baby's heart is enlarged trying to pump more blood. The idea is to keep giving the baby blood transfusions until around 33 weeks and then induce labor so baby can recover outside of the womb.
The anemia has been critical for at least a month. My wife wasn't sick even once. Just hungry and healthy.
So the prayers are working!

Sorry to say we were informed the baby was dead last Thursday. We were told to go home and don't leave it too long to come back. We wanted to come back the next day and so were given a number to call. They induced her every 4 hours and it caused cramps constantly for hours. She was given morphine and gravol. They said she best not have an epidural because her platelets are big and misshapen. I'd never been through it before and neither has she. It was tough to watch the pain of childbirth. Even with a 27 week baby the stomach was enlarged which was as bad or worse than the head. And then she was due for more morphine and didn't get any. They said sorry for her not getting the pain killer. Her breasts are as hard as a rock now and super swollen and sore.
I'm slowly getting better but the nerves just under the skin are burning feeling and I can feel it over my belly button and right groin close to the hernia operation. The skin stings now like I burnt it. The sharp tearing pains that shoot are gone now and I can straighten both arms. I can feel the tingling sting in both my breasts just on the surface like the skin stings. I'm partially numb under the right arm. I thought I must have pinched a nerve in my back but my back seems fine. I can't understand what these sights have in common that they all have this same surface stinging just under the skin? I don't have any sores on my skin and when I press there is no pain. I feel like the hair is being pulled in my right pelvis. It is the same pain as my underarm areas chest and nipples. No pain from the nipples to the middle of the chest. I'm wondering is this shingles with no breakout on the skin or is the a reaction to the anesthetic or did I pinch a nerve or fibro mialga. I don't know anything now except I have a $17,500 2015 snowmobile I need to start working out with weights to drive before winter. I just started being able to pick something off the floor and pet my dog.

Loring it can get better! You just try to keep going and not do too much either. To do a good workout with weights and stretching would never take over a half hour. You can do a light yoga workout for 20 minutes and then 10 minutes of weights. People might say weights after yoga what about meditation...LoL I never meditated much. Especially on sad things.
The broomstick is your friend. It is great for doing squats for the legs which strengthen the abdominals and spinal muscles improving lung function as well. Now doing the weights will help stretching. Just doing a squat is a deep leg stretch as well as helping pump fresh blood into the muscles.
When I get into shape with my 5 to 15 minute workouts because I skip the yoga... I feel like a different person. People don't realize how bad my spinal issues are. You see if you have a flat bench you are laying flat and if you use just the broom stick to start it will give you a good stretch and will help with the movement in your muscles and brain. You can move up to an empty bar after you feel OK to do so. I set my gym up in my living room as it has to be a way of life and even though I only do 5 to 15 minutes a day I can't get keep at it unless it is in my face. I can watch TV while I do it and I'd never go to a gym. Doing light pull ups with your body weight palms facing you help decompress your spine. At the very top is where you have to be more careful. when you're straining the most. If you are heavy it is not suggested you try the pull up. Just try a quarter pull up or as far as you can without straining too much. Just standing there and pulling for five seconds and a second rest and pull again three sets of ten would be very beneficial so don't decide to quit because you can't do a full chin up. Same with the bench press. Just doing the broomstick is good. You don't need to be pressing 135 lbs 25 times in a row. But if you can that is great. Lower the bar to the nipple on the bench press and blow up upon exertion.
You see we all get sitting around but we at least have to keep our muscles in shape through the full range of motion to not suffer aches and pains that will destroy our life. It's hard to keep good posture sitting on a couch or at an office desk. The single best thing you can do is stand shoulder width apart and squat down and raise your hands and squat up as you lower your hands. looking up with good posture and breathing deeply. It doesn't take much the problem is most of us myself included are guilty of doing nothing and the pain scares us away from the solution as we need to be careful getting back into things especially if we aggravated some nerve. Good luck and never give up. They said we had to name the baby by law and they registered the stillborn birth. I hate that word now but don't stop using it because of me. I hate political correctness like Happy Holidays instead of Merry Christmas. My sister and Dad both told my wife how glad they were to have her in the family and how special they think she is. As soon as she seen my Dad today she started crying as we didn't tell him anything until today. That made me almost cry so I stepped away a little. I felt bad for Dad and Eden. I knew Dad was excited about the baby coming too. He bought us a bunch of baby stuff already. We even have stuff we bought before we found out he was sick. They think it is a rare platelet disorder. They are still taking blood and looking for answers. We were told to use contraception until they figure it out. I thought we won't be trying to get pregnant too quickly right away. It is a bit traumatizing especially when the cost is so much. Just around $25,000. The Dr's tried to make it as low as possible. I was thankful. I'm going to try and put a tree up this week. I think I need to just act like nothing happened and the odd time reassure my wife everything is OK and were going to have so much fun together. I have been telling her everyday for the last six weeks and I'll just keep on telling her.

I hope so too Sherrine! Especially for my wife. I know she would really love a baby and having one would be even more special to her and me too if it happened.

We told the Dr to continue their tests. At first Eden said no more tests but I said to her in the future you may want to try again if we have some answers. She didn't even drink a coffee during the pregnancy. She has never smoked or ever drank alcohol. The Dr asked if she was Muslim. I cracked a smile...LoL Eden very much believed there was going to be a miracle. I told her King David the guy who wrote the Psalms and killed the giant lost his first child.

We appreciate the prayers.

Thanks so much Sherrine! Your words give me hope when I sometimes feel like it will never happen again for us. I'm sorry you had to go through this twice. It sure takes a chunk out of your heart. Then we get back up and keep marching on.
My prayers are with you and your family as well!

Thank-you couchtater! I love my couch. It is Gibbard made in Canada.