Kathleen, I'm sure you want some answers but it sometimes takes awhile. They have to be very meticulous. I can't begin to tell you the amount of "poking and prodding" and tests I had prior to finally having surgery to remove the rt. lobe of my liver, and then following that. I still go through it every 6 mos. to make sure the cancer hasn't come back. In fact, I had bloodwork and an MRI with contrast scheduled today. I had to fast from 11 PM last night. Got the blood work done this morning and then had to wait around, still fasting, until I could be checked in at 2:30 for the MRI. After getting undressed and sitting around freezing until 4, I hadn't yet even had the IV put in (which, by the way, has to be done by an interventional radiologist or member of the PIC team using imaging.) They were backed up due to some ER patients needing MRIs and it looked like they were overbooked, anyway. I finally had to leave without it being done. Now I have to leave at 7:45 AM tomorrow (and I'm up every 2 hrs. all night) to go back (fasting again) to have it done in the morning, then wait around to see my hepatologist at 2:30 PM. The saving grace is that I can eat after the MRI is done. And this is at Mayo, where they are very organized and efficient. But the name of the game is "hurry up and wait."
I have to agree with David about the way you approach them regarding a meeting. Also, doctors usually make rounds early in the morning and devote their afternoons to seeing patients in the office. So if you really want to speak with her doctor, I'd make sure to find out when he makes his rounds and be there then.
All of this does take a toll. Which is why I keep reminding you to take care of yourself. Take some deep breaths, then go to a meeting or call a sponsor or someone in the program whose sobriety you admire.
Hugs,
Connie