Hello Pink Grandma & Everybody

Hi there,

I haven't been able to come to this site since I posted about my fiancee's death last month. His name was Dave by the way and as you know, I loved and love him very much. He was 38 and a keen snowboarder and loved the mountains. Dave was kind, generous and funny. Dave was always fun to be around and was very intelligent. He loved his Dad and was a fan of music by Arcade Fire, Radio Head, Sarah Mclaughlin and Neil Young to name a few. He loved Hemingway and one of his favourite books was 'The Sun Also Rises'.

Anyway, I just wanted to say thank you for all the good advice you gave me. I'm devastated by his death but I'm grateful that I got to share his life too.

We were meant to be getting married this summer, but I'm going to have a really nice celebration of his life this summer instead with his friends and family. I like what you said Pink Grandma, about not rushing the bereavement - some days I think I'm OK, or in denial or something and other days I realise that I am really not OK at all. It's hard not to hurt people's feelings but I really need some time alone. I'm sort of hibernating I guess.

Anyway, I had a weird experience on the weekend which I'll tell you all about when I feel a little better. Anyone had a chance run-in with a psychic before ? Boy, that was something ?!

I'm looking forward to winter being over. seems like the longest one ever?!

Kellibelli,

I'm glad you are feeling better...Like they say, time is the only true healing there is. Embrace your memories and continue your life as he would want you to. Take care of yourself and visit us anytime. We appreciate your input that you shared with us!

Take Care of yourself!

Hi Kelly, Glad to hear from you. Just remember... on the days that you think that you have finally and truely went nuts.......you didn't.......it's normal......all part of the bereavement process. All the conflicting feelings are part of it too. The love, hate, sadness, scaredness,etc......will keep coming back around and around. And being a hermit during this time is okay too......contrary to what others may tell you. You do whatever you want to do or not do. It's time for you to take care of yourself now. Only you know what it is that you need to get through this time.
I too like the idea of a celebration of his life....Sounds like a wonderful plan.

Take care.......and come back when ever....my email is in my profile Kelli if you ever need to talk..... Lot's of thoughts and prayers......