Hi bbbbbb,
I am very sorry to hear what you are going through. On a better note... congrats on being listed! It might be a long wait but getting on that list is a tough battle. I think that that can give you a lot of hope!
I am 26 years old, newly married, a performer, and my fathers primary care giver. My dad is 61 and was diagnosed with end stage liver disease due to alcohol almost a year ago. He is now 10 months sober and we are so very proud of him! It has been a very tough year for all of us. His suffers from assities, getting tapped every 3 to 4 weeks, 9 to 15 liters. He also suffer from encephalopathy, varices, depression, and malnutrition. In June he took a terrible dive. He was in the hospital for 2 months... in ICU on a ventilator and feeding tube in renal failure. (the worst days of my life) He actually became so weak he could not stand up, walk, feed or dress himself. The Dr.s told us that this was the end of the road, and to everyones amazement he slowly made a come back.
We were at UMDNJ for transplant evaluation and long, long, long story short he was rejected due to cardiac. My brother and I were not okay with that and decided to send the Dr.s at Mt. Sinai and Colombia a personal letter asking them to see him immediately. To our surprise the contacted us the next day saying they we very touched by our letter and to come see them that week. So, that is where we are now... going through the evaluation process once again. Our goal is to just get my dad listed. We will do anything and everything it takes. ( I am learning that everything in life is negotiable ) Once he is listed it will be up to the powers that be, but until then we will fight.
My dad is on aldactone, lasix, lactulose, midodrine, xifaxan, and a multi vitamin right now. The meds have changed so many times I can't even count. I have found so much comfort and knowledge in this web site... I hope you do to. All of the people here are wonderful and willing to help in anyway. Knowledge is power and being here has helped me in ways you can't imagine. My best advice to you is to communicate and love your partner. It is a tough road on both of you. Try to listen and understand each other. When things get stressful patients run short... I check myself at least 10 times a day. You will get through it and so will your partner. COMMUNICATE and LOVE each other all day everyday. We are here for you. I hope this helps a bit. Keep in touch. Wishing you a sunshiny tomorrow.
Samantha
P.S. What's your MELD score?