Shel, Mayo is extremely thorough. It can be exhausting with all the testing and meetings, but you and Robert will know you are in good hands. I didn't qualify for a transplant, as my liver cancer had metastasized to the inferior vena cava, and I had good liver function. However, I went through 2 different treatments which have nearly completely killed the cancer, including the part that had metastasized. The next step will probably be surgery to remove the entire right lobe of the liver. However, in the meanwhile, it was felt that I was stable enough to have a much-needed reconstruction of my left hip joint. This was done by a Mayo ortho surgeon on 09/26. I knew immediately that it was a good surgery. I have far less pain than I had before surgery, and it just feels as though everything is where it is supposed to be. I'm still on crutches, with no weight bearing on the left--will have follow-up x-rays and visit with the surgeon next week. Mayo is absolutely tops, and I hope Robert will agree to everything they ask of him. They definitely know what they are doing. I have been a sober member of AA for 20 years. If he has any questions or wants to discuss his reticence about
going to meetings, I would be glad to talk with him in e-mail, or through you. Usually, it's a pride thing of feeling one can do it on his/her own, or it's denial that there is a problem.
Just let Robert know that if 6 mos. of AA is necessary for transplant, then he needs to comply. It is not necessary for him to speak if he doesn't want to, even if called upon in a meeting. He will just need to go and sit for an hour and then get a paper signed by a chairperson--documentation that he attended. Of course, he will be expected to remain sober during that time. He can learn a lot and get some good support, if he will keep an open mind.
I wish you both the very best of luck. Mayo will do everything in their power to help Robert, but he must also do what is required of him.
Hugs,
Connie