broken hearted

 hello all,

hospice nurse came out yesterday to see Lee, he had gotten sick sunday night and started running fever and was pretty out of it.  we had a very hard time getting him to wake up.  anyway the nurse told me it's time to take my family leave thru work b/c he will only be here for a few weeks...few weeks, what are you talking about?  our dr told us 3-6months.  i am so sick, i have cried so much.  i just can't look at the man that is laying there, in a hospital bed, w/oxygen, in my living room....and believe he will not be with me much longer.  i know they aren't God so they really don't know when he will be gone, but i have to say that yesterday really tore my heart out of my chest, or at least that's how it felt.

i don't know when i will be back on but i am thinking of everyone and sure hope that everyone is remebering my family.

thoughts and prayers,

michele

Michele

I am so sorry about the news you recieved. I will remember you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Lucy

Hello Michele, I am so sorry about your husband.

Your right nobody knows for sure. But spend as much quality time with him now. Get everything in order even though its heart-breaking. In the chance that both the doctor and nurse are wrong, anything beyond you will have gotten a lot of ugly stuff out of the way and can just enjoy him.

Doctors tend to error on the generous side more often than giving it straight. I'd trust that hospice nurse's assessment over the doctors. This is why. Hospice nurses deal with death face to face everyday. That's their job. I believe doctor's are afraid to give the actual length just in case they are wrong. It's like hedging their bet. My husband's cancer doctor gave him 3-6 months. I as a lay person couldn't see my husband lasting that long so I went online and did a little research myself. I found a site that gave him a 1-3 month survival. My husband lasted 2 months. So either my husband's doctor was hedging his bet or he just couldn't tell us the truth.

Michele my email is in my profile. If you need to talk just email me. I have been where you are and know how devastating it is for you.

Lot's of thoughts and prayers...........