update on my mom

Oh Worried Girl... I am so sorry you lost your mom---- I dont know you but from reading your posts I feel you did a wonderful job with your mom--- Take Care, and again I am so sorry!!!!

Best Regards

DK

WG you have been through the worst now, you have grieved along with myself for the mum you could have had before the alcohol took over. This disease has put you all including your mum through so much. You have done your best to help your mum through life and her death that is a great achievement. She really needed you and you were there for her, she will now rest in peace. The full impact of what has happened probably has not sunk in and won'tuntil after the funeral, you will be on autopilot right now and that will help you through the funeral. Take comfort in your family, be there with them, you will all need each other to get through this final step.

Even though I do not know you personally, I really felt gutted for you when your mum passed. It has brought me back to reality and what lies ahead for me also.
Remember to take care of yourself also.

WG, don't "should" on yourself.  It's only natural to start having those thoughts, but you gave so much and did all that you were able to.  The reality is that IF you had done the things you mentioned, it probably would have made no difference in the outcome--because of her active alcoholism.  Perhaps she WAS sober for the last month or so, but the damage had already been done.  Considering the circumstances, you did your best and you have no reason to second-guess yourself or feel guilty.

You are stronger than you know and you will get through this.

Hugs,

Connie