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Posted 1/17/2013 7:24 PM (GMT 0)
Mike's sponsor got married just before his transplant.

He and his partner were both long time AA  members and they had a "dry" wedding with lots of wonderful food.

No one minded, and whoever did could stop at a package store the way home.

The groom and groom were very happy...no rain, lots of good fellowship...well done!

Good luck,

Carol

Posted 1/17/2013 8:34 PM (GMT 0)
I never had an alcohol problem, and when diagnosed with Hep C, my pcp told me not to drink. I stopped immediately. For me, being around alcohol isn't a problem, though just like Ziff, when I'm around people who are imbibing, they look foolish and I feel like they're on a different level than me. Actually, I feel superior, because giving up anything takes discipline and boozers tend to look stupid as the evening goes along. Don't feel weird about not drinking, I've found that many drinkers respect my choice, and it is my/your choice, too.
Posted 1/17/2013 10:29 PM (GMT 0)
Ziffle I wonder had your wife not been there would there have been a different outcome for you that time? I think one day will be tough for me but 2? I dunno I think that was pretty impressive :-)

Connie the idea of not having alcohol would be fantastic but I come from a big family on both my mum and my dads sides and I wouldn't hear the end of it if alcohol wasn't served :-( I'm just going to have to grin and bear it for the one day and besides my fiancé doesn't like being drunk so hopefully ill have enough willpower to survive.

My hen party I think I will organise it myself and take the girls to the cinema or something. I've already stated I don't want a big fuss for that night so hopefully a chick flick is the answer :-) they don't allow alcohol in cinemas here so that's good :-)
I can go into restaurants with my fiancé as he doesn't drink when we go out but I'm not so sure how I would find it if I was out with a friend who was drinking. Me and him are talking about going to a club just to see if I can handle it, if I can't we will leave and go home. Just me and him so no one we know will be there to say "Go on have 1".
Posted 1/17/2013 10:47 PM (GMT 0)
Mike orders sparkling water...it feel slike a party.
Posted 1/17/2013 10:48 PM (GMT 0)
David I do see where you are coming from but for some people its really difficult. My ex boyfriends mother hadnt touched a drink in something like 15 years yet she still found herself leaving a room or just walking out of a function venue completely if things were getting a bit too much for her. I bet she still does it now and she will have been sober almost 30 years at this stage.

I guess some people find it more difficult than others. I myself might struggle if I'm in the company of drinkers but for the moment I'm lucky enough to be with my fiancé who has never been a drinker and goes months without even thinking of it, and when he does have alcohol its one beer and that's it. I can handle that as beer was never my thing and although I don't hate the taste of it I don't love it either. Now if he was to get wine or certain spirits I would struggle I think.
Posted 1/18/2013 12:39 AM (GMT 0)
 WNH , If it hadn't been for my wife I wouldn't have gone at all . She provided a buffer between me and the alcohol , I couldn't have driven myself to that party much less to the grocery store without falling asleep at that time . As I said I love my brother but we have lived so far apart for most of our adult life that it wouldn't have hurt his feelings if I didn't show , Particularly given my condition at the time . 

My family is not the touchy feely type so my brothers and I may go for a year or more without calling on each other . If we need each other nothing ever gets in the way of us being there instantly , We see no point in conveying " I love you's " more than absolutely needed . Needless to say this isn't the case with our parents or our own families .  

My wife is more than a than just a wife , She's been a friend and stuck by me when others may have walked away . A special lady in every sense of the word . Without her a lot of my life would not be the same , In fact I likely wouldn't be alive at all . And that is something I never let her or myself ever forget .

 A. Ziffle

Posted 1/18/2013 2:41 AM (GMT 0)
Arnold,
I envy you, having a wife that saved your life. Loyalty is everything...
Posted 1/18/2013 2:56 AM (GMT 0)
Knowingly walking into a venue you know serves alcohol...and lots of it...to see if you "can handle it"...is a dangerous game. You are tempting fate. Kind of like playing Russian roulette. Maybe you will be fine that time....and the next...but the 3rd time? Who knows?

No offense to David, but he wasn't an alcoholic or even a heavy drinker...so he can't begin to understand.

Hugs,
Connie
Posted 1/18/2013 5:10 AM (GMT 0)
You're right Connie. I have never had an addictive personality. A lot of that is due to my parents, who didn't drink that much, but they let me drink an occasional beer when I turned 17, plus we had a sip of wine with the sabbath meal. I had to be at home and wasn't allowed to go out after that. In NC, you could buy beer at 18, so my father figured it was better for me to learn what alcohol does under his supervision. It worked.
Posted 1/18/2013 5:48 AM (GMT 0)
I don't think it would be Connie as I have a few more occasions coming up where I'm going to have to face it and I feel that I need to do it but not right now. We have family who live in Australia and they are coming back to Ireland, mum is expecting me to be there too, we aren't like Ziffler's family as we are close and we talk all the time. Also my mum and dad are almost 40 years married and there will be a get together then too. I can't not go. I'm going to have to face it at some point within the next few months, seriously.

Mama lama and Connie if there was no alcohol at my wedding most of my aunts and uncles would make their excuses and leave early, I wouldn't give a hoot to be honest but my mum is doing a lot of the preparation and it would upset her. I was intending on having a small wedding but my fiancé wants a big party so we compromised and I got the small ceremony and intimate dinner and he got the big party. This was booked around the time I gave up alcohol to lose weight and although he loves me I can tell he still wants his big day. When my brother got married I stayed sober because I was trying to not make a fool of myself lol and I found it easier as the day went on but having said that either I didn't have an issue or I hadnt realised I had an issue with alcohol at that point so that could have been the reason why I don't know. The weird thing was I fell over stone cold sober and ripped my dress!
Anyway I'm going to just not think about any of it for now and look forward to the baby coming :-)
David my fiancé is just like you, he doesn't have an addictive personality whatsoever. He does smoke but he can go for a long time without cigarettes, he doesn't gamble and he very very rarely drinks like I said. I wish I was like that and I am strong willed in other ways I just hope I can apply that to this.
Posted 1/18/2013 11:46 AM (GMT 0)
 Please tell me your family in Australia doesn't include a guy named Michael , Lives in a beach community , Has a tendency to wear Kelly green speedo's , Had dated the Queen or at least one of her maids and generally makes advances on anything considered to be female . If so . Drinking may be your only way to leave there with your sanity in tact . 

We had a mischievous fella who once used to post here fairly regular . I often wonder what he's been up to , Last I heard he had already been through all of the women in oz and was working his way through the wallaby population .

 A. Ziffle    

Posted 1/18/2013 6:40 PM (GMT 0)
WNH, since this thread has gone to 4 pages, I am locking it and starting a Part 2 for you.

Hugs,
Connie
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