Hi Dennylynn,
Welcome to the forum! Im sorry you're having all these symptoms and pain. Actually, what you have described here is exactly the symptoms I had before I got my lupus diagnosis. I was losing a lot of hair in the front right at my hair line. It was receding like a man's!
You should absolutely go see your rheumy and have a full Lupus Panel of blood work done. Your symptoms, ANA titre and sed rate are good starts. But you and your rheumy need more evidence.
It sounds like lupus to me, just from what you described. Please ask any questions you like or need. We'll do our best to help you through this.
Blessings,
Ginny