Welcome to our forum Ashley. I'm always amazed at the women on our forum who must take care of children so you're certainly not alone, but I know it must be rough. It's great that your in-laws are next door.
I was diagnosed with fibro shortly before lupus and after 5 years I can tell if I'm having a lupus flare, fibro flare, or both. For me lupus is more joint aches and fibro is all over muscle pain. Both have that mind numbing fatigue.
Please let us know how you're feeling and vent any time you like! Love, Butterflake