"Get your Grump On" with me!

Grump away Lynnwood! You are certainly entitled.

That's pretty crummy. I get to feeling that way sometimes too. That's when I devote some time to myself and dye my hair, paint my toenails and immerse myself in marathon chick flicks. And junk food. If I could afford it I would treat myself to a spa day. When's the last time you had some fresh flowers in your house? They are always a good "pick me up". I'm a florist, I know of what I speak. ;)

What is something you can do to pamper yourself this weekend?

I went for acupuncture today and it was pretty darn amazing! I feel relaxed and as close to normal as I have been in almost a year!! Highly recommended :)

I hope your weekend gets better. Want to come to acupuncture with me next time?

((((((((((((((((Long gentle hug)))))))))))))))))

I know what you mean. I never hear from any of my old friends. I want to o to the movies but my movie buddy (niece) is swamped in end of semester college work.
I've been foggy all day too.

Lynwood, I really like your thought of hugging the grocery boy...I would do something just like that. Hugs are a rarity in my life, but they sure do feel good.

After these posts, I believe I've realized why I can relate so much to my hedgehog (one of quite a few of my critter family members). She huffs and puffs, sticks up her quills, and is big-time grumpy if I wake her. Eventually, she settles down, but it's in her own sweet time. I can relate.

Sure do hope your headache is better this morning.

Sending telepathic hugs to all three of you.

Take care--
Jan

Hi Grump. I guess the card I sent you that said, "I can always count on you to tell me the truth" was inappropriate. I currently can't help with a play date either cause Benlysta has zapped my energy and what little I have I save for my family. Guess for you I'm 0 for 2. I hope the grocery clerk is tall, slender yet muscular, has sexy long, thick hair, and sees you for the adorable woman who you are. As always, Love, Butterflake

Butterflake/Donna,

Your card was fine and you are definitely not one of the friends I am referring to. People with chronic diseases get a free pass!!

I'm referring to the healthy active people (and groups of people) who are out doing things and don't invite me along anymore. I promise I'm not a complaining grump when I'm out and about!

A delight to behold? Honey, I need some of whatever drug makes you say that!!!

I think you should hug the grocery boy AND ask him to give you a manicure. And tape his expression and post it on YouTube. :D

I belong to a lupus study that, among other things, sends out annual questionnaires. There was an interesting statistic I read several months ago that I still remember: 61% of those with lupus prefer to be alone (myself included). We are our own worst enemies. Love to All, Butterflake

There comes a time when solitary pursuits fail. I think my time has come!

My work was somewhat solitary 1995-2002, my Lupus has been very solitary 2002-present.

Trying to muster the gumption to re-create a friend network when I want to be friends with people who are active in pursuits I'm no longer very good at is challenging!!!

Interesting study results, Donna. Not surprising, really, though. I tend to think that for many women it's almost a necessity to be alone in order to truly rest and not be "doing" or stressing because you're "not doing" when you are feeling ill. Even then, it can be hard.

Acquiesce - so right. When reserves of energy are low - dealing with social situations, people, etc. is very taxing. I'm an introvert at heart. I love people but they can wear me out. It's also hard to keep up with those who don't struggle with fatigue and haven't the faintest clue what happens when you've dipped too far into the energy reserves and are running on empty.

Lynn - you strike me as someone who likes a good challenge. Celebrate that you are ready to move beyond your solitary pursuits and launch yourself out there.

God Bless Us, Grumps and all.

I try to get out at least once a week just to be around people besides family. Even when I'm scooting around walmart I still get a chance to talk or smile to strangers. It's good to break the boredom once in awhile.

Lynnwood:

Sorry to hear that you're dealing with the feeling of being abandoned. Or, at least, that's how I feel most of the time about my friends and family. I like you rarely have visitors, I know, I just had one but I hadn't seen her in my home since 2005. I did visit her in 2008 at her home in Florida.

My local friend has only been to my home 3 times in almost 2 1/2 years. That says a lot doesn't it, I do try to meet up with her at Starbucks once a month, but that doesn't always happen.

I think it's great that you're feeling well enough to feel grumpy about not having your former friends visit. When you were sick it really didn't matter, now it does. After our talk today I really think that getting away for a bit would be a very good thing for you. My offer is sincere, I even spoke with the Old Man, and he said you were more than welcome to stay with us. Whether you wanted to hang here with me, or homestead and travel to other places and just spend a night here and there. As long as you don't nag him, he's fine with it LOL.

I also had another thought, how about volunteering somewhere place, like a cat rescue or shelter. Or something that interests you. I know when I was healthier I worked part time, took care of my daughter, and was the volunteer coordinator at her elementary school, and the cookie Mom for her troop. Doing all of that at one time kept me very busy and I had many friends and loads of activities to do.

It's just a thought maybe I have triggered something for you to think about. I truly think you need a break from your everyday life of what it was, and need to start a new one even tho it's a scary thought. Who knows, maybe you'll come my way and bug me for a bit, my door is always open. Hope the Grump is gone soon.

Hugs,
Barbara