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Posted 10/15/2009 8:29 AM (GMT 0)
Please help. I got my diagnosis 2 weeks ago of mixed connective tissue disease. (I know its not Lupus but I didn't know where else to turn). I also suffer badly from Raynauds. I have been put on blood pressure meds (I can't remeber the name) and arcoxin, as well as getting a systemic cortasone injection. I can deal with this diagnosis no problem normally, however my husband is being very difficuly lately, we have hardly spoken in a week since we had a fight. We are only married just over a year, and I know I've been difficult and grumpy because I've been in pain and trying to deal with my illness. I said I realised this and that I was sorry and wanted to sort things out and he just said whats the point it won't change. Anyway my point is, since this fight I have been getting more and more stressed and worried and crying every night, and I have noticed that Im beginning to get very sore joints again and headaches. I also don't want to eat at all. Can stress cause my symptoms to get worse? Please help I don't want to flare again!
Posted 10/15/2009 1:35 PM (GMT 0)
Stress definately is a major factor in causing flares. Whenever we are stressing, our nervous
system goes into overdrive. Our adrenal glands pump out adrenaline and cortisol into our
bloodstream with the end result of decreased blood flow to our muscles. Our muscles then
tighten and cause pain. Ongoing stress is horrible for our bodies.

Lynny I also have MCTD. Take time every day just for yourself, and do something you enjoy;
that really helps. Make sure you get some exercise. I walk. It is important that you pace
yourself though, don't overdo. I also enjoy long leisurely baths. When I notice that I am feeling tense I will take 5 minutes to sit and do deep breathing, that really calms me.

I am on Methotrexate for the MCTD and take Diltiazem for my Raynauds and bloodpressure.

Sit down with your husband and let him know how you are feeling. He may be having a
difficult time accepting the fact you are ill. Initially it is scary for everyone who loves you.
You are also going through a time of mourning the loss of your good health as you know it.

Time helps with learning to deal will all the changes. Try to take one day at a time, it is so
much easier that way.

Sending gentle hugs and prayers your way!

Robin
Posted 10/15/2009 3:42 PM (GMT 0)
Lynn,

MCTD does include lupus, scleroderma and polymyositis by definition.  Stress does trigger flares for many patients and it is best to avoid it if possible.  Many patients have changed jobs or careers to reduce stress.  One lady in our local support group changed jobs and it was like lifing a boulder off her shoulders....no flares.

I have MCTD and also post on www.myositis.org and www.myositissupportgroup.org.  You will find others with MCTD or other overlapping connective tissue diseases. 

Bill

Posted 10/15/2009 8:49 PM (GMT 0)
stress is your enemy. explain that to hubby, actually take him to see the rheumy and have your illness explained to him in full. Seriously once he fully understands then he might be less stressful. Most men hate things they can't fix and if they love you and can't fix it it gets worse.
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