Hi Teddtlove,
I'm sorry you're having so much trouble with joint pain. Joint pain is my main lupus symptom so I've tried just about everything. I use a heating pad, ice, TENS unit, Biofreeze, Salonpas patches and the freeze spray. When it gets really bad I have to take pain meds and I take Celebrex twice a day but I know you said you can't take NSAID's. I hope this gives you a few options.