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Posted 5/29/2007 3:09 PM (GMT 0)
Howdy all,

Can something stressful like shopping for a travel trailer bring on a fatigue attack? I get very uptight when things are dealing with money, my face flushes and its like I'm in fight/flight for a while. I was only outside for a total of about an hour with sunblock and a couple hours worth of looking at campers. Afterwards, I was completely spent, had a glass of wine, hopped into the hottub and decompressed. I went to bed early, but today my limbs feel heavy like when you've been swimming too long, achy, tired and feeling rather *****y (the *****y thing could be PMS).

Is that the kind of stress to avoid? I know they say to avoid stressful situations, but I live with lots of scheduled deadlines and such and they haven't wiped like that one afternoon of shopping.

What do you all think?

Sarah
Posted 5/29/2007 4:48 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Sarah, I'mn sorry you're having a hard time today. Yes unfortunately we live in a world where a lot of stress can't be prevented. I think the best we can do is try to decide what we can't avoid and what we can throw away so to speak. Try not to get to excited about things we can't change or stuff like I gotta get these dishes done or I gotta get the lawn mowed or laundry and so on. Truth of the matter is that if you're too tired to cook there is always a pizza place on every corner. Try to make your life easier where you can so you have the energy to do what you have to do. (like the spoon theory) if you havn't read it I hope some one has the link here somewhere. It's a good read.
In my case the sun doesn't bother me but I can go grocery shopping and come straight home. all I can manage to do is throw the cold food in the fridge and go to bed. So I can relate to getting so tired.

I hope you get feeling better soon and if you havn't read the sppon theory please read it.

hugs
carol
Posted 5/29/2007 5:43 PM (GMT 0)
Sarah, like Carol and Babs said, I definitely think your shopping could have caused the fatigue you are feeling, and yes certain stressors can bring on fatigue too. As frustrating as it is, I have found that I can only handle so much shopping or activity in one day (and not at all on some days). I'm like Carol and find that if I run any errands or do any shopping I had better not plan on doing anything else that day and I find I need to rest after doing errands. It can be frustrating to have to try to plan ahead to make sure you don't overdo it and plan rest time in, but it does help in avoiding flares. It does sound like you did a lot yesterday and I can see why you wouldn't be feeling well today. Hopefully today you can take it easy. It might take you a few days to recover from overdoing it. Finding balance can be really hard and something I'm still trying to do. Hang in there. Take care
Posted 5/29/2007 5:50 PM (GMT 0)
This is truely a wonderful site :)

My husband met me for lunch and had some yummy Italian. He said that I sounded like I needed a "feel-good" lunch. He doesn't understand the fatigue, but instead just thinks I'm sad. He's a sweetie.

It is really nice to hear from people that actually understand that I'm not sad, just to pooped to pop.
Posted 5/29/2007 6:48 PM (GMT 0)
Your H is so sweet.
Oh yeah. I can't shop for two hours; I would be dead. Indeed, stress and fatigue are hard to deal with, and there is no remedy. I only can do one or two things a day, even for housework, in order to avoid paying for it later.
Hang in there.
Posted 5/29/2007 7:35 PM (GMT 0)
Yes, I understand the fatigue after errands and shopping. Like the others, I need not be out there long to feel it. The fatigue can be very debilitating. I work full time and that's ALL I do on the weekdays aside from doing the dishes. Everything else has to wait for the weekends because I just can't physically do it. And if I do have to run errands and shop on the weekends, well you can forget the housework. Its a never ending juggle.
Posted 5/31/2007 10:27 AM (GMT 0)
Hey Sarah - I'm like that too.  I just don't have the pep I used to.  At first, I was like, what the heck is wrong with me, all I did was "..." and I'm burnt!  Thinking back, it was a gradual thing.  Certain activities definitely bother me more (for you it might be the stress of spending money, for me, I know anything involving bending over or lifting absolutely drains me!!!)  I remember gardening a long time ago and I just couldn't finish because I had nothing left).  These days, I just try to take it easy and not go overboard on anything.  If the dishes aren't done or my house isn't clean, oh well!!!

That was sweet of your husband to bring you out for lunch.  I do think that it would be a good idea for him to read the spoon theory with you so he doesn't think that you're sad all the time though - as soon as my husband started to understand what was happening to me - life in this house changed as we used to know it.  I think he thought I was depressed too (and I was sad/mad at times because I was tired and/or frustrated).  When I started coming to this forum and started seeing that I wasn't alone, it definitely made me feel better yeah .  I'd relate some of the notes that others had written and he was like, "really?".  He used to make a few comments here and there about how things weren't done around here but now, he is way more understanding.  I get him to help me with almost everything where lifting is involved and I try (and I stress try) to avoid stressful situations because the stress absolutely drains me too.

The other thing thats changed my life is that I now listen to my body and I don't push myself like I used to.  I'm a bit of a perfectionist so it can be difficult but I'm learning (work in progress here...lol)

Take it easy and be good to yourself!

Sands...

 

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