mom1760,
One of my good friends is a veterinarian and she has a few dogs that have lupus. She's been able to put them on a treatment plan and still has these dogs as patients. Hopefully your vet will find a good treatment plan for your dog. How strange that you have lupus and not only did you have one dog with it but two! I wonder if their symptoms are like ours? Take good care of your pup. When you're both having bad days at least you'll both have someone to snuggle up with!
I wanted to say something to you about your comment "I know this forum isn't for dogs ... mom 1760, there are quite a few animal lovers on this forum and animals are a big part of those peoples lives, those animals are members of our families (me included). More important this is something that is bothering you, and that is what the support in this forum is about, being there to comfort, listen and help. I think that everyone would agree with me in saying that it doesn't always have to be "lupus" related, we're suppose to be here for each other and if it's about your pet that has lupus or about your lupus symptoms I would want you to post a message so I could help. You're in my prayers ... and so is the four-legged one too :) Hugs!