Sexual Frustration? Lymie Dating?

okay I guess not

I have thought about this alot. I know a number of people that have ended their relationships due to being "misunderstood." It would take an incredibly unselfish person to understand all that we go through with this illness (and others). I often wonder how I would let someone into this "world" without it having a negative affect on their own life. I mean, our futures are questionable and I guess they would have to understand that we need to take one day at a time.

On the other hand, no one (including me) wants to think that they will be alone forever because there is no such person out there. How sad that would be. A Lyme dating service, I think that would be great. I mean, at least we would all know what we were getting ourselves into! (:   D 

Yes, it is certainly very hard, maintaining some normal semblence of a social and love life.  I like it, a lyme dating site...

LOL, 'my lyme bed time'.  Know what you mean, I feel like I'm 80yrs sometimes.

This struggle with 'But you look so good, you can't possibly be so ill' is something I think about often.  A few times I have told (traditional docs) that I wish I had a goiter or tumor to show.  Of course they thought I was nuts.  I do believe that that was when a doc told me that my positive spinal tap meant nothing and handed me a bottle of Cymbalta.

Tracy

Hey SickInCT,
I definitely know that feeling. I have a wonderful boyfriend now, but for a long time I was trying to date with lyme. I found that it got better when I started to get better. I could tell people about it but make it sound like it wasn't consuming me, like it was more in my past ("I was really sick for a while, but I'm mostly better now..."). If I tried not to make a big deal of it, I found it was easier for people to handle. I mean, almost everyone has some kind of medical story. Then, when it got a little more serious, I would maybe let them in on how much lyme affected my life...but not until I knew they could handle it.

Thats a great idea Chris, a Lyme Community. I also have MCS and they actually have communities for people with MCS, and they have their own land, stores, gardens, etc and all suffer from MCS. A LYme Community would be great, then us single Lymies would not feel so alone. Lets do it!  D

No kidding. (:

Great idea, Chris!!

I met my husband when I was sick. I was bitten (for the 2nd time) a few months before we started dating and I just got sicker and sicker. He stuck with me and we've been married almost 12 years. 3 years ago we found out he has Lyme disease, too an probably got it before we met. My symptoms are worse...that's how his hid so long. He has really taken care of me in a lot of ways...and when he feels terrible I am so happy to be able to help him.

I really think we meet the people we are suppose to. And there are people we are suppose to be with. I don't think it was a coincidence that I met my husband. Hang in there. It will happen. It's hard to be lonely and hard to wait. But it will happen.

haaaaaaaaaaa EGB.CT...good for you.
Hey well I have some pointers. First if you want to have fun dating yet not have to get out of bed for it...go on match.com or whatever site you can find...and wink at people. Then have many converstations going on with others and weed out the jerks. Then go from letter writing to the phone. This again is easy to do from the bed...lol
And you will be considered not such a loser of you don't write back every single day..
Then after you get a dialoge going with someone you like...finally meet them for a drink..and go with a barf bag if you have to. Screaming migrain aside...
Then do not complain about how sick you feel...first they have to like you to give a darn...darn. Then go back to the love letters..and the phone...and meeting again.
But I would not advise dumpig all of your medical stuff on someone upfront.
I have found that men did not care if I was the walking plaque...lol. I would tell them what I had and they would look down my shirt and say....you look good to me. They did not care that lyme could be sexaully transmitted, and they were willing to take their chances..lol
First a girl has to like you...and see that you have a good heart..then she has to like your smile..and then you have to be a good kisser..ha.
Then if you take it slow..cause you are sick....she will think that you respect her....lol
It is a numbers game. Most women are very nurtuing. So that is better for you. My new boyfriend liked it that I could not get out of bed...lol
Most have told me that I am like that movie 51dates or something. Because I do not rememebr anything from day to day. Look at the bright side. You don't look sick. So use that to your advantage. And try to fake it some at the beginning...
My boyfriend only now knows how sick I was. The panic attacks and nightmares and bed sweets and the mirgraine should have been a hint..lol
But now he is happy that I can go to dinner and walk outside. Oh and that now he does not have to hold my hair while I am throwing up...lol

Thea_ls said...
Or we could have a thread here...

Hey boys,
28 yr old female
Minnesota
No kids
Never married
4 yr degree
exotic looking
wink wink, wink wink


No? nothing? really? shoot. lol

how far is minnesota from CT? Hows the weather?

27 M
CT
No kids
Never married
no degrees but I am a pro mechanic, fabricator, welder and all around handy guy!
handsome, clean cut

Seriously, there is a dating spot for Lymies!

On www.lymefriends.com there is a group called LymeEHarmony.  Join the site and join the group.  It's a new site, only up for two months, but has over 600 members already and 12 or so in LymeEHarmony so far.  Lots of other good stuff too!

Two people sick with lyme does not sound fun to me. I am so glad that my man did not catch it from me. I need someone to lean on now. I am not able to carry any more.
Supporting friends with lyme yes. Dating a man with lyme.....oh gosh. Then I would get it again.

Tracy Will said...
Seriously, there is a dating spot for Lymies!


On www.lymefriends.com there is a group called LymeEHarmony. Join the site and join the group. It's a new site, only up for two months, but has over 600 members already and 12 or so in LymeEHarmony so far. Lots of other good stuff too!

WOW!!! THAT SITE IS AWESOME!!!! THANKS!!

All the patients from under our skin are there including some of the doctors and the chat is hoppin!