Hishorselover,
Something you can do to help your husband understand is go to another site, Lyme Spouse (
www.lymespouse.org/) and see if you can get him to read some on that site.
It's incredibly hard for husbands to understand that their wives are this ill -as you said - because we look fine, and it's something that they nor a regular doctor can just "fix". Usually they don't want to think of their wife being seriously ill. I mean what would they do without us?? LOL!
Anyway, another thing you can do is to ask your doc the questions in the "New to Lyme?" thread on page 2 - The questions were gathered from a thread that ran a while back. All really great questions designed to help you understand what your doc believes, how s/he will go about
some of the different aspects of treatment and some other things.