Facility to treat computer addiction, ocd and lyme?

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If you haven't already it may be worth trying to contact the columbia lyme & tick borne disease research center (they specialize in psychiatric lyme although do not treat) and psychiatrist Robert Bransfield who is in NJ who does not treat for lyme either but is a specialist. Either may have advice on what you can do.

We see Dr. B. and he was the one pushed against the wall to say home instruction. My son was to be in top 10 in high school and now has failed, gaming 17-19 hours a day, sleeping nights and doing no work. He's dropped scouts, does not go to any (the few he is invited) parties (sweet 16, etc), friends houses, has lost pretty much all of his friends.

We also see Dr. St. in Howell, but no one handles this kind of addiction.

Long conversation with Dr. B and he said there really is no facility for neuro psych lyme that will treat with anitbiotics, most are holistic... then hard to find facility to treat addiction and lyme... his last phone words "I'm sorry to say, but I really wouldn't want to be in your shoes right now".... great.

I found a mom and another girl who was just like Andrew and asked them. She went to Rogers, but the mom said Mclean is currently more in tune to lyme now and can treat the ocd/addiction, just seems I don't know how to get him there and wish there was another, closer way to motivate him to do the right thing.

I don't care how much he games as long as grades are good, work is done, helps around house, does his Eagle project and stays connected to real life...

My son is 16, so really needs to get it together. I'll look into Columbia, also heard Rutgers UMDNJ has an ocd program, but it did not help my new mom friend's daughter enough....

I had not heard about neurofeedback - I have to research that, thank you.

Post Edited (Lovemychildren Mom) : 10/10/2014 11:38:05 AM (GMT-6)

What a thoughtless thing for your doctor to say to you. I'm sorry you had to hear that.

I'm so glad you met that mom and daughter so you have someone to talk to who understands the hard time you're going through with your son. I hope you can stay in touch with them. Hopefully you will find something to help your son. It's so hard when they don't want to do anything to help themselves. I'm a good listener if you ever need someone to talk to.

Opugirl, good for you for helping your stepson! He was lucky to have you. I feel so sorry for the parents of that girl. You'll be a good mom. :)

So I may never get him back.. and all this caring for him every second of the day with meds and healthy food... was a waste. He's always going to hate me and destroy his life! Had CPC urgent care here last night - resolved nothing. I'm just SO TIRED and want my successful, kind loving son back

I can't do this anymore. I've been saying that for months with the anger and psychotic bahavior and now not doing work and just gaming (that was all summer, but it was ok then as I could get meds and food in him and he stayed in one place), but now real life is here.

I thought it was just cause 4 1/2 months on meds and herbs was not enough yet... not because we now have a lifetime disaster on our hands....

Thank you everyone. I actually figured when his lyme infection resolved, he would be sick to death of minecraft and zombie killing and WANT to start living life again, seeing his friends, doing work and resetting his life, making goals and "getting back in the swing" of things.... getting out of the dining room. So, I was going just just leave him alone for 6-12 months on the lyme protocol, until people told me that may make it worse.

So, I can't figure out whether I'm trying to force him into life and work before he is ready, or just enabling addictive behavior..... reality is it could be either, but how the heck would I ever know which?

:(

Really mine craft? I thought mine craft is boring, and I prefer other games personally. But I guess it is all personal preference. But if that's what he likes to do right now and is in the middle of his illness... I would let him play his games, as it keeps his mind occupied. When I was in the middle of my illness, i couldn't learn anything anyways, my brain simply would not process information properly! Lol if it counts, my thing that I occupied my time with was reading everything possible about Lyme disease as I just wanted to get well! I still do this but not nearly as much as I used to.

I think the most important thing is, let him know that getting him better and healthy again is the most important thing and as long as he is working towards getting well again I think let him play his video games.... I know in society we think well at this age kids should be in school learning... But it is important to recognize how impaired his brain is by the illness, and learning can probably wait until he has a clearer mind that is actually capable of learning!

When I as in the worst of my illness... I still went to work... But I couldn't do any work! I was just sitting there doing nothing and I would even think at times, like what the heck is the point! Every now and then I would push myself to try and get something done. I can imagine it must be like that pushing him to goto school! It is very difficult when you are impaired by this illness.

Good news is... I am reading that LLMDs are generally able to "cure" young people... Like kids, it's the adults that are more difficult to treat as we have been exposed to more toxins in our lifetimes... Also they are still growing so their tissues are going through lots of change, have good blood supply, etc... So he can get better at his age! I think it is important to let him know how much you care about him and that you want him to get well, that should be the emphasis. If the video games help him pass the time and give him something to do in the meantime then it gives him something at least. I bet when he gets well again, he will go back to his former self and do what needs to be done. So his habits will change.

@ Garden Peace, yes, has been on Pinella 3 months of the 4 1/2 on doxy - also prazosin, prozac, and 30 billion probiotic.

Will look into homeopath - sounds really interesting and inviting. I'm not sure who to go to in n.j. here or what it is all about, maybe I can learn. My email is on the members list if you have any particular points I should look for. I don't want to take too much of your time, but thank you!

@ Sayyadina, thank you - going to llmd Thurs. will ask about treating clinical symptoms since he was negative for all coinfections. I know Zith is good for Bart. as I recall, you can't take antibiotics, so you think anise and cilantro? I have the Mozart/ Pride and Prejudice repertoire from Spacie Gracie, but he won't listen to it as she recommends. I'll have to see how this goes. I"m happy to see you have some good days lately - you had a rough summer.

@ lyme pickle, not just mine craft, also some game killing zombies and league of legends - he was the administrator on the zombie game and teaching people coding or something, but 17-20 hours a day... and not work/homework/leaving the dining room but to sleep, only and occasional shower and teeth brushing... really? Have not read through all you wrote yet, have to run out, will get back more to you later, hope you are "cheerier" lately - you seem better than this summer too... :)

Lovemychildren, I sent you an email.