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Posted 12/18/2016 6:46 PM (GMT 0)
Hi All,
I've noticed a lot of tension on the forum lately. We have to remember, we are all feeling pretty miserable, and the cold weather sure doesn't help a lot of us with our pain, not to mention that it may be limiting how much we can get 'out and about'.

We need to have a lot of patience with each other here, as this is our 'safe haven'. We need this place to be free from the stress of being attacked for what we say, or how we say it. Remember, everyone here is either dealing with the same sets of issues, or have a loved one that is, which is very wearing as well.

While we have no rules for how we treat each other, we do want to keep this a very supportive and encouraging place to be. Many of us rely on it as part of our support system.

Should you feel agitated or upset by a post, there are options. You can ignore the post, or the thread (no one is required to post in any one thread); you can hit the ignore button on any post to no longer see that members posts (do NOT do this to Mods though, it can lead to a lot of troubles for everyone, as well as possible banning); you can walk away and take a break for a bit (I've had to use this from time to time myself) or just step away and take a deep, calming breath before responding.

But, let's all work to keep this the open, caring, supportive place that it has been for quite a while now!!
Thank you for all of your help in this!

Trav =)
Posted 12/18/2016 11:30 PM (GMT 0)
Brothers and sisters of a kind - we're all in this together. Family.
Posted 12/19/2016 12:12 AM (GMT 0)
Amen & well said! I take it all with a grain of salt! Life is too short, plus, my memory sucks! So, if I may have said anything that offended anyone, I'll be the first to apologize now.
Although when I am in intense pain and often I am, but wish I wasn't, Lord what I would give to just have my health back!
I just noticed, I flip flop to much! I think that's another side affect to this retched disease!
Posted 12/19/2016 1:34 AM (GMT 0)

Traveler said...
Hi All,
I've noticed a lot of tension on the forum lately. We have to remember, we are all feeling pretty miserable, and the cold weather sure doesn't help a lot of us with our pain, not to mention that it may be limiting how much we can get 'out and about'.

We need to have a lot of patience with each other here, as this is our 'safe haven'. We need this place to be free from the stress of being attacked for what we say, or how we say it. Remember, everyone here is either dealing with the same sets of issues, or have a loved one that is, which is very wearing as well.

While we have no rules for how we treat each other, we do want to keep this a very supportive and encouraging place to be. Many of us rely on it as part of our support system.

Should you feel agitated or upset by a post, there are options. You can ignore the post, or the thread (no one is required to post in any one thread); you can hit the ignore button on any post to no longer see that members posts (do NOT do this to Mods though, it can lead to a lot of troubles for everyone, as well as possible banning); you can walk away and take a break for a bit (I've had to use this from time to time myself) or just step away and take a deep, calming breath before responding.

But, let's all work to keep this the open, caring, supportive place that it has been for quite a while now!!
Thank you for all of your help in this!

Trav =)

Your timing is good on this one Traveler. Especially given the time of year, the weather and whatever we are all going through.

I will admit that a comment in a post scared me off for about a week a while back but I got over it hahahahaha. My nerves were not the greatest at the time so I took a breather. I missed everyone so I came back.

My fat fingers once caused me to accidently put an awesome mod on ignore. There were two other names there as well. I was horrified to say the least. Was hoping that no one had noticed ☺️. No such luck I'm sure though. The mods here keep a tight watch on things.

I feel secure here. And I have become quite attached to a number of members through their posts.

Hang in there everybody. Hope you sleep well tonight as much as you can. We're going to make it. We have each other. "There's got to be a morning after......"

Buzz🚀

The not so onward and upwardly mobile member who is aiming at infinity and beyond yeehaw!!! 🙂🙃
Posted 12/19/2016 2:25 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks Trav! open, Caring, Supportive! Great three words.
Posted 12/19/2016 8:42 AM (GMT 0)
Sorry of I'm a bit rough around the edges. I mean no harm or ill will.
Posted 12/19/2016 12:26 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for keeping us straight Trav smile I hope I'm not in the guilty party. I always mean well and feel that I come off strong the way I write for some reason. Never been too good at socializing. If I've annoyed anyone with anything I've said here's my apology and wishing everyone happy holidays
Posted 12/19/2016 3:16 PM (GMT 0)
I just think that life is hard for a lot of us right now, me included, and we need to be careful to remember that many of us here are also having a hard time. This was not to single out any people, only to serve as a reminder that we are all in this together and we need to help make sure that this stays a safe haven for all of us - we definitely need it!! It's a tough world out there for us.

We ARE a type of 'family' here, so we need to expect differences of opinions and preferences for the most part, and to realize that if we were the ones having a bad day, we would want to be able to come here for comfort, understanding and acceptance of our situation. We need to CHOOSE to be in this together and help each other, not argue or get 'snippy' with each other.

If someone does come off that way (sometimes it's hard to tell, since things like sarcasm and other things can't easily be discerned).


Soooo, this is your friendly reminder that we are all in this place together, let's see what we can do to support and help each other understand and get through this time. We get attacked and have to explain ourselves enough out there - let's not make this another place where that happens. Remember, we have control over this!!

And thank you to everyone!! We want this to remain THE BEST place for support and caring for each other.
Posted 12/19/2016 6:03 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for the reminder, Traveler. smile
Posted 12/19/2016 7:22 PM (GMT 0)
Love this forum and the helpfulness of everyone. Thanks Traveler.
Posted 12/19/2016 9:29 PM (GMT 0)
This has been circulating on the Internet.

Author unknown

Some thoughts as we enter the holiday season.. It is important to remember that not everyone is looking forward to Christmas. Some people are not surrounded by large wonderful families. Some of us have problems during the holidays and are overcome with great sadness when we remember the loved ones who are not with us. For many it is their first Christmas without a particular loved one and many others lost loved ones at Christmas. And, many people have no one to spend these times with and are besieged by loneliness. We all need caring, loving thoughts right now. If I don't see your name, Its all good. Can I ask my friends wherever you might be, to post this status for one hour to give a moment of support to all those who have family problems, health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind and just need to know that someone cares. Do it for all of us, for nobody is immune. I hope to see this on the walls of all my friends just for moral support.
Posted 12/19/2016 11:55 PM (GMT 0)
Good reminder, Buzz!! And, that fits me, even though I have support at home, I've lost some very close family members during this time of year and it can be hard to get through it all without some understanding from those that I'm around most - my physical family and my virtual family (you all!!).

So, thank you for all of your support and understanding. Now, let's show everyone that we can do this - together!!
Posted 12/20/2016 11:31 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for starting this thread Traveler! To be honest I'm not in the best frame of mind right now as I have lost a close family member about 2 weeks ago. He died unexpectedly and I'm still in shock and trying to deal with my grief...

I don't have much family left who are alive so it's a sad Christmas for me..

If I come off unpleasant I apologize for that...

Denise
Posted 12/20/2016 11:07 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry Deejavu!
Posted 12/21/2016 3:59 AM (GMT 0)

Deejavu said...
Thanks for starting this thread Traveler! To be honest I'm not in the best frame of mind right now as I have lost a close family member about 2 weeks ago. He died unexpectedly and I'm still in shock and trying to deal with my grief...

I don't have much family left who are alive so it's a sad Christmas for me..

If I come off unpleasant I apologize for that...

Denise

Wishing you all the best. Sorry for your loss.
Posted 12/21/2016 11:58 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks for all your help and positive messages on this forum Traveler!!
Posted 12/21/2016 1:19 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks so much Mister Mike, julymorning and Buzzly for your kind words. He died from diabetes as his kidneys were overworked and couldn't get the fluids out though the hospital he was in did the best they could for him. He really didn't take care of himself eating bad carbs, etc. but it was still a shock.

Denise
Posted 12/21/2016 4:07 PM (GMT 0)
Denise, my deepest sympathies to you. I"m so very sorry for your loss.

It's a shame to watch someone ignore their health when we fight so hard for it. But I did not see anything wrong with your posts - it was more a general 'tone' on the forum. I've been here long enough (LOL) to know that this is not only a harder time of the year, but with Christmas coming up so quickly, we often feel overwhelmed or overworked - or both - which leads us to be a little touchy on here.

I know that we all need a safe haven, so I just want to bring that back about with the help of everyone here. We just need to be a little bit more understanding of each other's plight right now, and if we can't be that, then we just need to remember to "walk away".
Posted 12/21/2016 4:35 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you for the reminder, Traveler.

I have noticed myself to be in a very defeated mood. And with that I can be negative with people. I am trying hard not to allow it to affect my relationships and working hard to be brave and positive for a sister with breast cancer, but its not always easy as we all know!

It may be a good idea for us to just re-read every post we make wether it is here, in a text or on social media. I know mine can come off as really "short" sometimes when it is totally not meant to be.

Deejavu, I am so sorry for your loss.
Posted 12/21/2016 4:39 PM (GMT 0)
Deejavu, I too am sorry for your loss.

Denikeef, prayers for your sister.
Posted 12/21/2016 4:49 PM (GMT 0)
Denikeef, so sorry for you and your sister. There is so much suffering in the world. Thinking of you and yours. Sending caring and healing vibes your way. Just lit two candles, one for you and one for your sister. Take care xo.
Posted 12/21/2016 8:48 PM (GMT 0)
I am so sorry for your loss of your loved one Dejavu - and I wish everyone serenity, and safety, and physical, mental, and emotional comfort during these holidays and always!!! XOXO, Miss dismissed.
Posted 12/22/2016 1:06 AM (GMT 0)

Denikeef said...
Thank you for the reminder, Traveler.

I have noticed myself to be in a very defeated mood. And with that I can be negative with people. I am trying hard not to allow it to affect my relationships and working hard to be brave and positive for a sister with breast cancer, but its not always easy as we all know!

It may be a good idea for us to just re-read every post we make wether it is here, in a text or on social media. I know mine can come off as really "short" sometimes when it is totally not meant to be.

Deejavu, I am so sorry for your loss.

Denikeef - I"m so sorry to hear about your sister. Many prayers and many good vibes being sent to you, your sister and both of your families.

I'm going through a rough time as well, so I understand WHY we may be 'short' with each other, but we just need to try to be more patient, and more understanding, knowing that many of us are struggling right now physically as well as emotionally/mentally. Which I also know is not easy, but it's really a must.
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