How are we dealing with our angry/confused/missing family?

Hi silver.light, welcome!

You can't get well if you don't treat. Have you learned yet that Lyme is sexually transmitted and he could likely have it too? Maybe that's part of his hesitation. I know my husband doesn't want to know if he has it, he doesn't want to do what he sees me doing, he doesn't feel crummy yet or his body is working pretty hard to hide it, his cd57 which I was able to get him to test was 67.

Traveler or one of the other great veterans here will have more info for you soon.

Hang in there, I hope you find what you need to get you well soon.
VCL

Well oops, my bad.

VCL – I know Lyme may be sexually transmitted. My husband is healthy, touch wood! He goes to the gym and sleeps like a baby etc. He is not against of getting tested but he doesn’t have any symptoms so postponed it. I hope your husband won’t develop symptoms but CD57 at 67 is a reason to keep an eye on his health. Somewhere I read that mycoplasma can lower CD57 too.

Girlie – I am sorry your husband tested positive.
I hope you are right and my husband will be more open in the future. What bothers me is that if he had any diseases, I would insist going with him to the doctors and do research on my own. However, he has done none of these. Anyway, I hope I am not lost in my own world and will notice if he ever starts becoming unwell because not sure if he pays enough attention to signs and symptoms.

I was in your situation too, Silverlight - my hubby didn't do any research, never went to any of my appts with me or read anything that I sent him - but what I didn't realize is that it was because it was scaring the daylights out of him! So try to be patient.

If he listens to you, he's picking up information anyway - my hubby surprised me when he ended up infected and insisted that I go with him to each of his appt's - and told me that if he couldn't get effective treatments, he would do exactly what I say so that he doesn't end up with chronic Lyme (he was listening????) - he said he had seen enough about chronic Lyme to know that's where he did NOT want to end up. When we got to his doc's appt, he proclaimed (a little too loudy - LOL!) that I knew more about these infections than any doctor in this area!

After I got over my shock of him saying that, I proceeded to explain the faulty testing to the doctor and the symptoms of a few different vector borne infections - the doc actually listened to me! He ended up getting enough treatment early enough that he has not dealt with any symptoms since then!

So don't give up hope, but do be careful in that he may be just as scared as you are but is trying to act like it.