spider bite types

I was thinking about when I originally got sick and I never believed I was bitten by a tick, and more likely a spider...it occurred in March, in NJ(still kinda cool and while tick activity not impossible, unlikely), and I did not do anything outdoors at the time.  So, I want to ask about spider bite types to see if any match up.

So...my initial symptoms at that specific moment were a kind of nerve pain in my neck, followed a couple of days later by a red rash on my neck(not a bullseye and no discernable bite spot).   The gamut of lyme symptoms gradually phased in after that.

Anyway, does anyone know of a spider whose bite would cause symptoms like that?  Basically, nerve pain and I could have sworn the muscles/tendons on that side of my neck were atrophied for a few weeks after that but it wasn't visible to other people and didn't result in any serious muscle weakness, I am basing this on tactile probing of the muscles on that side with my fingers.

Probably wouldn't be a black widow since I'm alive, and not a brown recluse since my skin didn't fester up.   Anyone know of a spider that can cause low grade symptoms like that with its bite?

Have you gone to Google and searched "images" and did a search for photos of spider bites. I used google images to look up tick bites and spider bites and insect bites in general,  and found the only thing that came close to what I had was a tick bite--and they matched exactly,  except mine was about 6 inches in each direction . 

I also looked up brown recluse and black widow bites on Google images to try and figure out what left a huge hole in my leg (still there) from when I was 8 and got bitten by something.  I'm guessing it was Brown Recluse.  My grandma poured peroxide on it and the poison ran down my leg for what seemed like forever.