Anyone gotten divorced or sell their house while sick?

I am so very sorry. If you need to talk to someone, I am willing to give you my ph.# or I could call you. If not, you could also write to me. I understand what it feels like to not have someone who understands what you are going through. Hugs to you.

You should really consult a trained counselor. Most insurance policies will cover some amount of counseling. If you don't have insurance coverage, then possibly a minister or mental health or other crisis center in your area. Of course, hearing the experiences of others here in the forum might also be beneficial, but most or all of 'us' are not be professional counselors! Good luck!

Sweetie,

That's exactly what a therapist once told me. "Love is not enough." I broke up with my ex in 2008, not too long after a complete thyroidectomy and my father's death. I wrote a funny "Dear Friends" letter that Christmas, entitled, "The Year of my Voodoo Curse." I didn't send it though!

I think staying with my ex would have made me sicker in the long run (and in the short, for that matter). My therapist convinced him to come with me to my first LLMD visit (NC to NY), and he insisted we drive, and not fly, plus I had to do at least part of the driving. Then he yelled at me part of the way up, and all the way back, and he made a tourist trip out of it, meaning he was dragging me around to see Gettysburg, and things of the sort. When we got back, I was so burned out, I knew there was no way we would ever make things work again.

Now, I'm thinking of selling my house, bc I believe it's making me sick. Mold, plus way, way, way too much maintenance, and a very steep terraced yard. For one thing, I need the money, then I need a smaller space with a flat yard, and I need to get rid of tons of junk.

It's super hard to be on your own without family to help; and that's a fact. So if he's helping or being supportive, that's good. But if your life would be better off (including health wise) without him, that's another thing entirely.

I'd suggest loving friends, people with chronic illness, and/or church or something of the sort. Ok, I'm not walking the talk yet, but at least I can suggest it.

If you need to email me (as I am in that "single and alone" position), let me know.

It's important for you to be true to yourself, and to live authentically, as long as it's not at a very, very serious cost.

Margarert

Hi Flowergal,

I'm also sorry you are going through this.  I asked my now ex-husband to leave because the stress of our marriage was too much for me.  I felt the stress was making me sicker so I asked him to move out and we separated. Years later we did get divorced.  I also gave up my house as that was causing me stress with high mortgage payments, etc. 

When I was sick my ex-husband was constantly yelling at me for not cooking dinner, cleaning the house, etc. because all I was capable of was going to work as I was so fatigued and so sick.   I tried to ignore him but it was really difficult.   I asked him to go to a therapist with me but he didn't want to. 

I really believe that stress plays a HUGE role in getting better (meaning one needs to eliminate as much stress as they can from their lives).

You can e-mail me if you feel like talking.  Hang in there, everything happens for a reason.

Hugs,

Denise

No matter what you choose to do, know that we are here for you and won't "think badly" of you no matter what!

Thanks Denise,

We had a big talk this weekend and I guess we will sell the house if we can. I am just so sad about everything and feel so alone since my husband is normally my bf.

fg

flowergal said...
Thanks Denise,

We had a big talk this weekend and I guess we will sell the house if we can. I am just so sad about everything and feel so alone since my husband is normally my bf.

fg

I asked god to give you strength to overcome this situation. I would suggest you to calculate how much debt you have to pay before selling your house. My advice is sell your house if and only if there is no other option.

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