Be brutally honest

I was wondering what are the chances of me having a normal healthy child with no developmental disorders (i.e. Autism, Down's, ADD/ADHD) or disabilities or severe life threatening allergies when I have EBV, Bells Palsy, Lyme disease and Leaky Gut. I feel like I shouldn't be selfish and just give up that hope of ever having a healthy child. I don't want to selfishly bring a child to only suffer. Really sad right now.

Lymehater, being honest as you requested:

Turn your focus to the now, to the present - right now it is about you...are you feeling up to the task of caring for a child at this moment? You don't have to have perfect health to be a mom, not at all! But I don't know your status - and being a parent with sleepless nights and, as Pete Za states, our natural nature to be worry worts....it takes a lot out of us! So be sure you allow yourself time to heal before jumping into parenthood (and yes I am a mother of a 21 year old, who developed celiac disease at 2 years of age and, I believe, she has Lyme as well...but she is amazing!! Can't imagine this life without having had her!!)

Trying to predict the future is a pointless task that only drains our adrenals and gets us nowhere but on a road of constant stress and despair. Fear is the greatest disability there is, I truly believe that. None of us has the ability to predict the future or the health of our children. Perfectly healthy people can have an ill child. Unhealthy parents can have healthy children. A perfectly healthy child can develop an illness later in life that has nothing to do with the health of the mother. Then there is the "universe" where sometimes bad things just happen. But it is only about ever about one thing - love. If you have the desire and love in your heart to be a mom, then don't let fear steal that from you. These diseases have robbed you of enough - don't let them rob you of experiencing the joy being a mom, in sickness or in health, which there is no way to predict.

Just please love yourself first in the present and make sure your energy is used to heal you, so you can be the best mother you can be when you decide it is time to bring your child into the world.

I love what ursamajor68 said. There really are no guarantees in life. You just make the most of what you have.

Girlie said it well also.

In addition to the member that jrpsf just posted about, we have another member - Opugirl who gave birth to a healthy baby boy.

Thank you everyone for the honesty. I find my mind going to extremes and worrying a lot esp about things i cannot control. Is this what lyme does to you? my paranoia has gone off the charts. I don't remember being like this.

Thank you for the link. I read it twice. I am so glad she was able to have a healthy baby:)
I agree that I'm in no condition to have a child now...doesn't stop my brain from thinking about the future.
My coworker said his wife had a baby at 35 and was told anything after 35 is called a geriatric pregnancy, OMG lol.

I never understood why people would cry in movies. NOW I"M THE ONE CRYING while watching a stupid show or even a drug commercial or anything for that matter. I never got emotional during PMS but now it's like "PMS" x 10! I'm like *** is wrong with me, where are there tears.
Thanks Silly Sheep.

I'm reading Buehner's book and I think not only did I have a tick bite but a few years ago I was at a hotel being bitten by bedbugs then brought them home. OMG he said you can get lyme from non ticks too. Then on my honeymoon after the tick bite, I remember volunteering at a dog rescue in Thailand during my honeymoon and holding puppies (that were thrown in a rice sack down the dirt road) and they were covered in fleas and I'm sure I got bit. darnIT hindsight is useless! Ok I just need to move on. Anger will not change history.
I wonder if anyone else got bit by bedbugs or fleas like me.

I've always been more emotional than I ever wanted to be, but since I've had Lyme all my life (essentially), that may be the reason. During the little bit of time that I have not had these infections, I've been much less emotional. There is a LOT of stress on the body when one has these infections!!

I've been bit by so many ticks, there simply is no way to even estimate how many, plus fleas, bed bugs, mosquitoes, horse flies, deer flies, sand flies, and so much more! These infections are carried by many insects besides ticks. We have proof of at least 2 species of mosquitoes carrying it, plus doctors accounts of bed bugs and others - not to mention patient reports. I'm convinced that most any insect can carry these infection if they bite someone with Lyme and draw a bit of blood or plasma - they have the potential to pass on these infections. We really do need to protect ourselves! I've now been reinfected and am having to go through this whole mess again because I didn't protect myself well enough while I was in town getting groceries!! I was NOT out in the woods or tall grass that day, I went from my house, to my car to the grocery store.

Because the world is pretty ignorant of these infections still. There are many Lyme patients that still don't realize that more than just ticks spread these infections. And honestly, for those of us that are 'insect magnets', it's hard to know what actually gave you the infection.

And thank you for your sympathies - at least I already know what I'm doing and need to do for my body. But this is why I'm now a huge advocate for prevention - and it's more than just when you go out in the woods or tall grass, though. I think it's safe to say that most all of us get insects in our home - a mosquito, a bed bug.....

PeteZa.
I was sent to Hawaii for 3 weeks for work...I kept itching thinking it was mosquito bites from being outside.
I attract them like crazy. However I never saw one. Finally I realized upon my last day it was BEDBUGs. The hotel denied denied denied.
when I got home I went to bed...i was bitten ALL OVER MY FACE. I went to the ER they said it looks like some bug maybe bedbugs. I went home googled it and sure enough it was. I had my house fumigated!! I brought those suckers home from Hawaii!!!

LOL! You don't have to have your whole house fumigated to get rid of bed bugs, but I understand the desire!! If you will leave your sheets and blankets pulled back for a few hours each day after you get out of bed - this will allow the area to cool down too far for bed bugs to proliferate.

Plus, if you find yourself with bed bugs - go grab some fresh sage (works best) or oregano (works decently) and put it under your bottom sheet for a few days. The first night I will still get a few bites, but by the second night, they are completely gone.

Experience. Priceless, but a hard way to learn!!

ohhhh, I'm so very sorry to hear that, Lymehater!! I've had 3 miscarriages, but mine were due to undiagnosed Lyme and company. That's rough.

Well, the good news now is that you do know!! And you might be able to help someone else with that information!!

Hugs to you Traveler