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Posted 10/15/2008 4:30 AM (GMT 0)
I need some help and aside from searching the website, I'm getting little to nothing to go on.  My mom has MS and is currently in an Oregon Hospital, because she broke her hip a couple of days ago.  She fell this time last year and ended up reciving a blood transfusion due to a blood clot in her leg.  At that time she was released to a terrible home where she finished her physical  thereapy to be well enough to go home and be with dad and have in home care come regularly.  This didn't last long for my mom and I'm not certain why. 

My question to you is, can I become her care giver and be paid to do so?  I couldn't do it and work as well.  I have a family and Fibromyalgia myself.  My dad does it all right up until this week while she's been in the doctor.  I don't know if Dad ever looked into being paid to be the caregiver, but I do know that it's getting to the point that he couldn't do it all 24/7 by himself.

Does anyone know what is involved.  Who is elligible to be a caregiver (is there a class) how much could one receive for taking care of family member.  The thought of someone else mistreating or even just doing something that I should be doing for her as her only daughter kills me. 

Any words of exerience you can provide... I'd so appreciate it.

Sincerely,

Tricia

Posted 10/15/2008 1:30 PM (GMT 0)

Hey Tricia,

These are great questions!  I don't have the answers.  I am guessing what you want is social services.  You could call the local MS Society or you could call your nearby hospital.  They could put you in touch with social services.  It does seem reasonable that dad at least get a break by having a local nurse come spell him.  I have not heard of spouses being paid as caregivers but it does not seem unreasonable especially if that care is full time.

This is a really good thread and I will be searching for answers.  Sunny, could you do some research here as well? 

Tricia, please let us know what you find out and post back.

Posted 10/15/2008 2:33 PM (GMT 0)
Wednesday a.m.

 

Very good morning:

 

Those are wonderful thoughts about taking a larger role in your Mom's care.  You would think every child would feel that way....but...

 

I do not think there are any government/SS progams for caregivers.  (Instead of spending billions on the Iraq war, there should be.)

 

Did your mom ever work outside of home?  If so, maybe apply for SS disability?

 

Great luck.  John

Posted 10/15/2008 7:48 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Tricia,

 

I will continue to look into this and post again if I find anything, but at first glance I didn’t see any specific information on this issue. I’m guessing your best bet is to contact the local chapter of the National MS Society, as they will know about this kind of service, if available.

Here is information on Oregon programs from the Family Caregiver Alliance:

http://www.caregiver.org/caregiver/jsp/content_node.jsp?nodeid=1242

 

Below is a link to local resources by county (Area Agencies on Aging and Seniors & People with Disabilities Services). You might also contact them and see what is available in your mom’s particular county.

http://www.oregon.gov/DHS/spwpd/offices.shtml#baker

 

This is such a difficult issue, and I really hope this is able to work out for you and your family.

Sunny

Posted 10/15/2008 9:28 PM (GMT 0)
U go Sunny!!!! :))
Posted 10/15/2008 10:02 PM (GMT 0)

Tricia~~~~ turn    You are a wonderful person to want to take full-time care of your Mother.  Not many people would be so giving.  I have no idea about the getting paid to take care of your mother full-time 24/7.  You should because you would be giving up your job and you need the $$$$. I wish you lots of luck in your endeavor to find something that works. yeah yeah  If I would by chance hear of anything I will bring it to the forum.

Post Edited By Moderator (rhondab) : 10/15/2008 4:50:31 PM (GMT-6)

Posted 10/16/2008 2:30 AM (GMT 0)

Thank you all so much for your replies.  I appreciate your time.  My mom is getting worse and we are slowly coming to the realization that a care facility home, at least for a few weeks, is going to happen and it may be a permanent situation, unfortunately.  I will continue to be as active as possible in her care. 

Thanks again,
Tricia

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