thankyou all so much were six sisters all together so the house work is all in order, and picking the kids up from school is sorted, her husband even pays a lady to do the housework every week so she does the ironing if need be. i didn't know it could take up to 2 weeks i think i'll skip that bit out untill after the surgery, as when things unfold. her kids a wonder kids they keep the house tidy and are really considerate of her illness, i thank god for that as when my older sister went through the same illness and surgery she didnt have support, her kids were great but her husband didn't acre infact he gave her more misery, and she told me that she had to be on feet straight away bcoz she had no support, so the situation this time is alot better. i was really worried about the emotional side, my sister finds it hard to ask people to do things so we do it anyway, and she very rarely lets it show how much pain she is really in, it makes me cry when she actually talks to the surgeon as i went with her, she started to say how much she aws going through, the pain, the weakness etc... i didn't cry then but when i went home i was in tears i think you all are sooo brave and i realy pray that all goes well for those who have ahd the surgery and those are set to ahve it
thanks again