question about sex

do any of you find it hard to have sex now after surgery due to either the pain, or the shame of your scar or bags. or your husband feeling weird about that whole things now.  and the ones who had the vagina fixed does it hurt now having sex or what has changed. do any of you find your sex life better then it was and if so why is it better. just curious about this..

My hubby is totally cool about it so that is not an issue. Since the surgery my sex life is a million times better than before. I did have my area fixed and there is scar tissue. It's tight in the area of the repair but not too bad. My gyno suggest having seeing a physical therapist who specializes in the pelvic floor area. However, I do not have enough nerve to even go to see what it would entail. Besides--it's just scar tissue--the one thing everyone says to do is massage the scar to break up the adhesions. I just would hate to go and then have some stranger either a) show me how to massage my hoo-ha or b) have a complete stranger massage my hoo-ha. Forget it. Plus, it gets better over time just by doing the deed. It wasn't comfy at first but I knew it would get better and it did.

BETTER! who cares about scars and pouches...we don't:)

ok i should never be th one to point out a typo, but this cracks me up, you put
doing the DEAD, lol.

I dont think men complain very often about it, they aren't real picky.

that is funny. maybe that is how it is doing the dead................LOL that is funny. i tend to do those type of typing errors. my friend and i crack up all the time when we do that. thanks for telling me it cracked me up also..........................
about your scar i know how it bothers me also. and my scar hurts by the belly button. and lately i am getting some really sharp pains in my belly and pulling burning feelings. anyone have that also.. i know i should post that on a different topic if i want respondes.. but i do feel bad about my scar. anyone else feel like their belly is like a butt now. my belly looks to me like it is another butt. it has the scar down the middle and then it is fatter on the outsides so it is like humped up on the side and then a crack that is down deeper where it looks like a crack in a butt. i hate it. but if i lost like 20 pounds it might go down. i wish i could loose weight so bad. but with winter and being lazy here in michigan i just dont seem to get enough exersize.. i just feel bad about so many things lately. my size, my scar, my lack of energy, m y lack of being able to go the gym, my not being able to work right now. anyone feel like this now after surgery. i want to be sexy again. but just cant seem to get that feeling and look back and i am wondering if i ever will

I've had several issues. Radiation can 'shrink' one's hoo-ha (as Jen calls it ;-). And when the rectum and anus is removed it can also make the previous mentioned body part go south and with no support of the those parts, it is extremely painful for me to have intimacy the 'conventional' way (ie: penetration ... will this get censored)? I have worked with a gyno that specializes in things like this and she sent me home with vaginal dilaters (which I jokingly call the vidigidiglators) but since no one gives a rip after the surgery I guess I don't either. Never had the opportunity to have someone with the patience to work with me and I guess I feel pretty uncomfortable with my body now anyway where as before I was extremely confident about it....

mommy i can't remember how longits been since you had your surgery, but for the first couple of months i would have a pulling burign sensation, like you are talkign about, its your muscles going back together and such.

yes it can be months before quit getting pains, it was almost a year before i stopped having some pain. the reason it hurts the worst in your belly button is cause thats where they started the cut, it was explained to me, but honeslty i didnt pay that much attention, lol.
My aunt just had knee surgery back in april and she is having pulling burning pains in her knee where the cut was, and they have told her numerous times its because of the muscles growing back and streching bakc like they should.
And if you think , almost every single thing you do uses your stomach muscles, even breathing affets them so of course they are having more pain. i dont think i explained that well, i'm sorry.

i love that name up there, cootchie snoorcher!!! thats hilarious!

anyway i dont know about the problem you are having with your rectum, unless something is causing your indside parts to push there, although i dont even know if that's possible.
I dont know when it will stop hurting, i hope it does soon though.