I don't think you should necessarily take every post as the way things go for everyone...most people who are out living their lives don't post as often!
I had a proctocolectomy a few years ago (colon/rectum/anus gone at the same time
) and aside from being a little older (than previous surgeries) my recovery was pretty normal for all at once. My dx is Crohn's and I also had fistulas so that made things a little harder to heal. It doesn't sound like your hubby will be experiencing that!
I think having it removed is a good thing...if you aren't going to use it, why keep it?!!!