Katinarizona,
I have just visited your husbands site describing his cancer/ileostomy experiences and it was most informative.
I had rectal surgery and a hospital stay four months ago almost identical to your husband and I'm now scheduled to have my loop ileostomy reversed at the end of October.
I must admit that I have been quite terrified at prospect of having messy no bowel control, maybe adult diapers, sore anus etc. Your website has helped to put it all in perspective, yes, I expect that I will have some problems but reading how your husband dealt with them has made me feel much more positive.
Thank you very much for sharing this experience.
P.S. Your husband did not mention the removal of the JP device, for me this was the absolute worst pain I have ever suffered.