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Posted 6/14/2013 2:30 PM (GMT 0)
I guess I got my hopes up too high for having surgery this year.  Just had a call from my surgeon and while he can see me September 4, there is no way my surgery is going to be until well into the new year.  I was so hoping to put this behind me, whether it was a reconnect or a permenant ileo, I was prepared either way. Hubby is leaving to go overseas after Christmas and will be gone until April.  I guess I just wanted it to be done before he went.  Now I have to prepare myself for another year of waiting. 

I know that I shouldn't be disappointed.  I am healthier now than I have ever been, eating whatever I like and doing things that I never thought I would.  Funny how one can look so forward to something and then be so crushed when it's taken away.  This is probably the most upset I have been since waking up with an unexpected stoma......

Perhaps a few days away in the sunshine will change my perspective.

Sorry for the vent.

Posted 6/14/2013 3:32 PM (GMT 0)
Is it because of his schedule that he cannot do the surgery?

Regardless if you are doing well...you had your head psyched and it fit in personally with your life, husband's schedule etc.

Try to regroup and not let this get you too down. I know it is easier said than done and I am sorry for your disappointment.
Posted 6/14/2013 5:39 PM (GMT 0)
Yes, he's a very busy man and I wouldn't ever consider going to see anyone else so I guess I wait. My disappointment quickly faded this morning when I found out a close colleague has been diagnosed with terminal brain cancer and has only days if not hours to live.

I have reminded myself that I am blessed, I am healthly and I am loved.

Surgery can wait.

Thanks Another UC Wife. Appreciate your empathy!
Posted 6/14/2013 5:43 PM (GMT 0)
" when I found out a close colleague has been diagnosed with terminal brain cancer and has only days if not hours to live. "

that's messed up. Can't they save him, like they saved Armstrong? He had brain cancer also I think.
Posted 6/14/2013 6:02 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry to hear that LM...for you and your colleague....looking forward to chatting more next week.

B
Posted 6/14/2013 8:20 PM (GMT 0)
Larasmom- I am so sorry on both accounts:(

Hang in there. I agree it's better to wait for your doctor. Just sorry to hear surgery will take so long. On the positive, it doesn't seem like anyone can tell anyway:) Positive thoughts for your colleague.

Mossmi33
Posted 6/14/2013 11:18 PM (GMT 0)
I'm sorry...for both things.

I can definitely understand your let down. It takes alot to prepare mentally, get your ducks in a row, etc. Completely understandable.
Posted 6/15/2013 2:47 AM (GMT 0)
Sorry to hear about your close colleague's sad news. Yes you are so right that sometimes when we see the tough trials another person is going through it does minimize our own situations. Makes it a little easier to accept the change in plans.

Just a new Plan B now for you but one that is manageable overall.

Hope the time passes quickly for you and you have some additional help and support when your husband is away. I'm sure he wishes he could be there to help you too.
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