I have a parastomal hernia I got when I had a cold and coughed hard. I was told, right after my ostomy surgery, to not lift anything over 20 pounds because I could get a hernia. I followed their suggestion. No one told me I should hold my abdomen when coughing.
I felt the muscle rip and knew exactly what had just happened.
My hernia is inoperable, too, but I've learned how to live with it. Yes, I look pregnant. I was asked when my baby was due a couple of years ago. When I told her I wasn't pregnant, she was so embarrassed. I laughed and told her I was happy she thought I was young enough to be pregnant...I was 64 at the time.
Gotta laugh or I'd cry.
Sherrine