@Christine1946 - Wow, that sounds really scary! Glad you came through the allergic reaction okay. As for my heart, they are not sure what caused my heart to become tachycardic. I have had all kinds of tests and even been sent to Mayo. Mayo says there is nothing structurally wrong with my heart, just beating too fast. So, they are starting with the hypothesis that it is from deconditioning since I was so sick and malnourished. Could barely walk from the car to the house when I got home from the hospital. So, I have been doing a cardiac rehab program since April and will return in August to have the tests repeated and see if my heart is behaving itself better or not. Walked, jogged a little for 2 miles this morning!
@ PoucherInTo - I am so sorry to hear of your difficulty with fertility. My heart goes out to you. You have been through a lot, having to start this process at such a young age. I am glad the future is looking brighter for you. And you are right, doing well with the temp. ileo has definitely clouded the water for me.
@ Pluot - No worries! Just wanted to make sure I clarified my history. It is so difficult when you are not given all the information or are rushed in your decision, and then need to just live with the consequences. Interesting viewpoint that the "big" surgery is already over. That is true. I think I am more worried about
life with the J pouch than the takedown surgery itself. Wanting not to throw away the quality of life I have now for something that is worse...on the other hand, if the j pouch functions well, I will be able to do more than I can with my ileo! So...boy, do I wish there was a crystal ball. We probably all do, right?
@rdm - Do you know of any factors that might indicate the pouch is prone to failure? My surgeon has only said age and if they are not sure if the person only has colitis. Other than that, I have heard of no other factors. I read a post on here recently that said that Cleveland Clinic has more testing, etc. they do to determine if the pouch will have good functioning... also, you mentioned that a fair amount of people have a bit of nighttime leakage - how do you deal with that? Do you have to get up in the middle of the night and change sheets, etc.? Just looking for tricks of the trade if that happens to me. Also, you said double digits is not at all unusual for frequency - was that for people that have problems with the pouch? I believe if that were the case for the successful pouches, it would feel similar to colitis...
My surgeon has told me that I can leave the J pouch in and the temp. ileo in place and has not mentioned that there would be any issues with either one of these options. Hasn't mentioned prolapse, retraction, etc. I feel that I may need to ask him about
these more pointedly (since you all have said they can be problems) and maybe get a second opinion as well.
My husband, who has been amazing (I am a very blessed woman), asked me the other night, ""What answer do you need to be able to make this decision?" My answer was, "If something goes terribly wrong in surgery, I need you to be able to give our children a good enough reason for why I decided to go through with it." I understand that convenience and image are very strong reasons for some. Personally, for me, I am okay with those things. I have lived with the temp ileo for 9 months and figured most things out. For me, I need more reason. One thing I continue to think about
is my kids have lots of growing up to do yet and I want to them to have a fully engaged mom by their side. Every time I discuss with my husband all the things I miss doing with the kids, I get very emotional (i.e. having my kids jump up on my lap, rough housing with them, my son doesn't want to give me big hugs anymore because he is afraid of the bag, jumping/diving into the water off the boat, cliff jumping (which we do every summer), rollercoasters, even playing catch - my son has a pretty good arm and it almost hit my stoma once and now he is timid to play and I am a bit as well). My husband believes, this is my answer. I want to be fully engaged with my kids again. It sounds like those of you that have a fully functioning pouch can do these things. Just wish there were a crystal ball to know that I wasn't going to be one of the unlucky ones and then my kids have a "sick" mom again....