Absbabs,
Thought I'd add my 2 cents . I can confirm that CI only gets worse as you get older!
I've had problems "going" all my life, but when I turned 20, it got so much worse. I went to a gasto. doctor, and he told me to take senokot granules every few days to clean myself out, and that's what I've been doing for 30 years. If I don't take the senna, I don't go. And sometimes that doesn't work well anymore.
Early this year I had a blockage, and didn't have a bm for 16 days. Nothing would make me go. After gallons of golytely, and numerous laxatives, I finally went, but decided then to do whatever I had to to make sure that didn't happen again.
Over the years I have gone to several specialists, and tried every laxatiave/new medicine, and like many of you tried miralax, zelnorm...nothing worked except my senokot. Dulcolax will sometimes work, but I get terrible pains and it's very liquidy.
Anyway, I went to a Colon and Rectal Clinic earlier this year and had all the tests again. I was diagnosed with CI after a sitz marker test about 25 years ago, and these tests revealed the same, plus pelvic floor dysfunction and a rectocele. My doctor recommends a laproscopic total colectomy, and I plan to have surgery after the first of the year. I tried biofeedback, but had no luck with that.
I wish I had pursued this earlier. I've spent most of my life trying to figure out which days of the week I can poop and when I can make plans. Every vacation, holiday, long weekend is spent worrying about how much I can eat and when I plan to go to the bathroom. If it wasn't such a pain in the butt (pardon the pun), it would be funny!
I am so looking forward to having this surgery over with. I know it sounds extreme; when it was first mentioned to me 25 years ago, I must have looked at the Dr. like he had 2 heads. Having your colon removed? He had to be a quack. But here I am 25 years later, and it looks like he was right even then.
My surgeon said that most of his patients who have this surgery are actually in their early 30's, and I've been lucky to have gone this long with laxatives still working. He told me that one day they won't (which I found out earlier this year) and the risk of more blockages, or even perferations are greater the longer I wait.
I'm scared to death, as everyone who faces surgery is. The ironic thing is that my biggest fear (aside from not waking up!) is being incontinent. That seems so funny, considering I can't go at all now without a laxative, but I know that now, I'm literally tied to the house the nights I take the senna. I can take it at noon, and I have to be home by 4, because most nights it works all night long. My quality of life is relatively good now, except the days I take the laxative. I'm just hoping that after surgery, I'm one of the lucky ones who can go, but also control it!
This message board is wonderful. It really is good to know exactly what we have facing us, and I'm so grateful to everyone for sharing their stories.