sara. your decision will come to you. no reason to worry about it or rush it. Focus your mind on getting fully recovered and getting back to your usual lifestyle.
I made huge decision a year or so ago regarding surgeries myself. My jpouch failed.. horridly may I say! I had been given a diverting ileo with the jpouch left intact because I was far too sick at the time to do anything else. Many can just carry on and live that way. For me, it didn't work, I developed severe diversionary pouchitis, joint pains, going to bathroom 20+times a day for mucuos junk, other pains, continued rectal meds, etc.. So I had to choose between going for a jpouch redo operataion.. meaning build a whole new jpouch and end up with no bag.. hopefully. Or jpouch excision and permanant ileostomy operation.
What cinched my decision was the 18months of time with my "temporary" diverting ileostomy. Even though I was still sick with that poorly jpouch inside, I was still able to do stuff - ran three half marathons, worked more than full time, had some social life, etc.. So for me, that 18months of living life made my decision for me. I didn't want any more risks, I didn't want more setbacks, I didn't want to take more chances, I didn't want even more possible surgeries and trauma to my body.. as the jpouch redo would've been 2 more surgeries and if it failed.. even more. So I went for the permanant ileostomy. My actual decision came to me almost instananeously one day. There was no deadline. I just woke up one day and said enough. Enough enough.. Called my surgeon and made my pre-op appointements to get that jpouch removed and permanant ileo created.
so for you, you may find that your new well functioning ileo gives you your life back and you may just be done with it all. Or you may find that you feel limited with it. Time will tell. Your decision will come to you.