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Posted 9/6/2007 5:09 PM (GMT 0)
Just really ticked about almost everything today.

Wondering what everyone does when they need to vent!!!

Posted 9/6/2007 6:21 PM (GMT 0)
Well, prior to my surgery, I used this forum to vent. However, when I really need to vent I call my husband and I say, "Honey, I really need to vent, can I barrow you for a couple minutes." Then he knows that I need to rant with no interuptions. It always makes me feel better. When things really seem frustrating, I try to think of 10 postive things that make me feel better.

Shall I list some??? Lets see, I can eat solid foods again! I have 2 lovely well-behaved (usually) children. I have a husband who loves me. I have health insurance! I live in a free country! I have a Father in Heaven who watches over me. I am bright and have many friends. I have this forum to help me when I need advice. (Ok, two more....) I do not have a life-threatening illness. My husband and children are very healthy. I have a home to live in.

Crud, that's 11 things...should I delete one? Nahhh...I'll keep them.
Posted 9/6/2007 6:53 PM (GMT 0)
I'll trade my 2 children for your well behaved children hah

Does talking with your husband help? I find talking with my wife or friends that do not or have not gone through the health probelms isn't the best sometimes.
I think my primary doc hears me vent the most.

Might be time to go up the street and pound some golf balls.
Posted 9/6/2007 7:38 PM (GMT 0)
I find a good gin and tonic (or a couple) and a phone call to my sis does the trick.
Posted 9/6/2007 9:34 PM (GMT 0)
My best source of release from my day, not venting, just having some time to myself where I do not have to think about anything is when I am on my bike. I like to bike about 20-25 miles a day. It gives me time to zone out and just feel good about my abilities.
Posted 9/6/2007 11:18 PM (GMT 0)
Slice,
You didn't happen to work on your computer today, did you? Computer 2, Slice 0

All kidding aside, when I'm having a bad day, I will talk it over with my husband, breathe deeply and try to chill out, go for a walk or bike ride, watch a funny movie or TV show (Scrubs can always make me laugh), or take a bath or shower to wash the day away. Since I'm a woman, a good cry always helps, too.

Hope tomorrow is a better day for you.
Posted 9/7/2007 3:00 AM (GMT 0)
i have a bad day everyday, lol. And i will certainly trade my child for a well behaved one, i will even throw in a car! LOL. i just stomp around for a while, and do some kind of meaningless activity. Yesterday, it was cutting lettuce into teeny tiny pieces, so it won't cause a blockage. My husband, who is quite often the cause of my crabiness, said that was a dumb thing to do, and i told him either i used the scissors to cut the lettuce, or i would use it to cut one of his fingers off (just picking of course) but he left me alone, lol. Sometimes i go outside and mess around and call one of my friends. I also have another site (not health related) that I am a mod on and active at and i go fuss there alot!
Posted 9/7/2007 1:54 PM (GMT 0)
Ok, so the deal is this. Summer and i split Amey's 2 kids and Amey gets my 2 kids and Summer's child PLUS a car!! We then let my wife and Summer's husband hang out and annoy someone other than us.
I then go and play golf, watch hockey and football. I'll take Amey's kid that likes hockey, Summer gets the other one. Enjoy the car!!! Woooo hooooo
Posted 9/7/2007 2:30 PM (GMT 0)
Hubby works nights so he's usually not here when I do need to vent, but I will occasionally call him at work. I'm actually in a good mood the majority of the time even when I feel like crap. When I went through the breast cancer, I pretty much joked my way through it (how much money I'd save on bras, etc.).

I figure that no matter what I'm going through or dealing with, someone else has it worse than I do.

Posted 9/7/2007 7:05 PM (GMT 0)
I'll take the car! but wait...what kind of car are we taking about here? I mean, I can't just trade my kids for any 'ole car. It at least has to get too gas mileage.

Sorry Slice, my son does not like hockey, golf (unless it is putt-putt), or football. He's pretty nerdy. Today is his 12th birthday and all he wanted was a powerful microsope so he can exam skin cell (epidermis cells as he calls them). Your better off taking my daugher, age 9. Although, she nags a lot....not sure that is much different than a wife.

Well, I gotta pack for our trip....busy, busy, busy!
Posted 9/7/2007 7:53 PM (GMT 0)
LOL! You guys are funny! Oh, sorry to be be nosy, but where are you going Amey? My vaca got canceled this year--bye bye beach!!
Posted 9/7/2007 9:08 PM (GMT 0)
at first, i thought you meant how do you vent your pouch? haha....

as for venting your problems and frustrations.....

i try to be as real as possible with all my friends....and have as many real friends as possible.....that way i can spread the whining around between everyone....

this forum is a great place though in my opinion, i also enjoy writing down my thoughts and feelings and saving them to read later, it is funny to see where pain and discomfort can take a person's brain....

the coolest thing happened recently....well cool in a way.....i re-met a friend from high school / college that has an ostomy too! now we can both complain to each other and the other person isn't just listening, i "know" he understands!
Posted 9/8/2007 4:35 AM (GMT 0)
Glad,

Curious minds want to know...

How did you meet up with an old friend who also has an ostomy?

That's got to be a good story...

Do tell...
Posted 9/8/2007 7:34 AM (GMT 0)
I like to junp in the car and take a short cruise. There's nothing like driving with the top down on a quiet counrty road listening to really good music to help you forget what you're pissed about. Why vent, who's gonna listen??? And besides, venting usually makes me even more pissed off!!!
Posted 9/8/2007 6:05 PM (GMT 0)
ok slice, that is a great idea! the car is the passat i just bought, because i thought it was pretty, but it doesn't run because it needs a transmission, so that's what you get, lol.
Anyway, mine likes basketball, and he likes to play hockey (as best as a two year old can) so that's the one to take for sports.
I will go with whoever will play pool with me!
Posted 9/9/2007 12:23 AM (GMT 0)
You guys can drop all of your kids off at Amey's and then come to my house to play pool! yeah
Posted 9/9/2007 2:40 AM (GMT 0)
Ahhhh, thats the winner!!! Drop our kids off at Amey's. ( where s that?) Then we head to Florida i assume. Even if it's not Florida...........i'm still stayin'.
Posted 9/9/2007 2:41 AM (GMT 0)
YAY, sounds great
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