Nursing home questions

My mom and dad have were in a nursing home for 6 years together before

my dad passed away in 2006.  My mom is still living in a nursing home. 

Its hard to say what the questions are to ask.  I think observing while they

are showing you around, looking for cleanliness, numbers of staff and nurses and

the smell can tell you a lot. Even the best will have some problems.  We have been in 3 now.

I think the most important thing you can do is to be sure someone is close enough to

check in frequently.  I had a cousin we paid as a care giver since I did not live in the

same town as my parents.  I kept in close contact with her, even got her a cell phone so

she could call me with out cost to her.  At least twice my mothers life was saved because

I had Lesa.  Now, I have moved mom to where I live and go over at different times to check up

and spend time with her.  I like to vary my time so the staff does not know when to expect me.

It pays off, believe me.  And dont be afraid to rattle some cages if you think things are not quite

right.  God Bless.

Thanks for the addition.  I, too, believe it is important to

show appreciation to the staff.  They are doing a job that

would be to difficult for most of us. Have a good day.

We have just made this decision for my mother and my heart goes out to you. This is not only the hardest thing I think I've ever done but also the most important one you can make for the one you love. I whole heartedly agree that thanking those who care for your loved one but also, keep your eyes open!!! Don't be afraid to question if something doesn't seem right. I also agree that you need to show up at different times. Example, today I went for a visit to be called by the nurse while in route saying that my mother had a temp of 102+ and that a chest xray had been ordered. When I arrived I couldn't find her, here they had taken her down for a hair appointment and there were 7 others ahead of her! Bless her heart, she was so sick and still they had her in a wheel chair waiting in line. Needless to say, I took her back to her room and had her put in bed. So just be very observant. If it were in my power to bring her home with me I would in a heart beat.