VAfan,
MY better half (now 55) has pretty much finished the menopause stage and has some lingering issues.
Although she has not verbalized it, I can tell her response to my continue ED is "Maybe now you won't bother me so much".
I keep telling her "Just wait, I'm getting better and I'm open to try anything short of chains & whips". She just laughs.
Ah! Life goes on.
At least no more cancer for now!