Dear Oncas, I really understand your fear and also frustration. Men like to "fix" or "solve" or "get over" problems.....This Pca is a real beast that really no one can answer your questions....You just have to really look into all of the options....and there are many now...and then decide and see what happens.. In our case, we, and the doctors, thought the cancer had escaped the capsule initially, that is why Pete did radiation and seeds....however, it probably had not.....then we were left with few options...the salvage surgery at that point, left Pete with many SEs, but did debulk the tumor, which has given time to see what will happen next.....If he had done surgery to begin with, he then could have had radiation... the reverse is not so good....
Good luck to you and try not to worry. We are here for you to ask questions or to vent or just to add your two cents....We all do. Diane