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Posted 10/27/2009 11:17 PM (GMT 0)
I am just past the 1 year post surgery. Zero club which is great. I still have leakage which requires a pad a day and sometimes 2 depending on activity. I am a furniture service tech so I am in all kinds of postions during day. I also work out 4 to 5 times a week. I realize the work outs which include easy running, treadmill walking and moderate weight lifting will cause some leakage.

Is there hope that after this long I may still stop leaking all together. What are the odds after a full year. I still do kegels. Any of you guys out there reach the dry land after this long?

Carry On.

Posted 10/28/2009 3:42 PM (GMT 0)
Try going pad free, in my case it was a crutch that once I tossed aside I naturally knew there was nothing to help me out. From that day on I was dry
Posted 10/28/2009 9:09 PM (GMT 0)
Jersey,

I don't know how long it takes to dryness, because I'm not there yet - 4 1/2 months and still lots of leakage.

But you bring up a good question that I've been meaning to ask, namely, about exercise. I used to go to the gym 4 or 5 times a week. Now I don't go at all, because:

  1. It's an open locker room and I'm embarrassed to be seen wearing a Depend and a pad (still wearing both)
  2. I'm afraid I'll pee on the floor after showering, and that would be a good thing.

How do you or others handle these issues in the gym?

Thanks,

-Charlie

 

Posted 10/28/2009 10:06 PM (GMT 0)

CharleTuna:  when I still was in a depends I would dress in workout clothes prior to getting to workout facilety. I would not shower there. Yes ,I had the same embarassed feeling. What I do now is put a pad inside of jockey brief with an old school jock strap over that. That holds everything in good position. When workout is over I just pull everything off and do shower. At this point I do not have leakage that I cannot control so a in house shower is ok. Have a replacement brief and pad ready to replace what you just sweated up. It takes alittle more work and planning but it can be done.

I have been tempted to throw caution to the wind and just not wear pad to see if the mind will take over. I think I will try it this weekend.

Posted 10/29/2009 3:54 AM (GMT 0)
I'm 13.5 months post-op, da Vinci.  In September I had my one-year consultation with the surgeon - who was pissed as hell with me . . . because I'm still on one pad a day.  This is a guy who does lots of research with federal grants and he's told me I'm not trying hard enough to control the leakage, that I shouldn't be leaking, that I'm content with wearing the pad a day, etc.  I think he's right.  I don't know how/when I'll gain the discipline he expects of me  . . . but I'll keep trying.
Posted 10/29/2009 12:44 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks, Jersey. I'd thought of your suggestion, but I guess I may have been looking for excuses or feeling sorry for myself. I'll give it a try.

-Charlie
Posted 10/30/2009 11:08 PM (GMT 0)
MrGimpy: seems like it might be just a coensedence that you were dry by just stoping to wear pad. I know the mind is very powerful but if your plumbing has a leak it has a leak. I am going to try your approach this weekend around the house to see if I can get better with mind control. Thanks for your thoughts.

Mavica: not trying hard enough is a statement that is almost insulting . Does he think we want to be in this prediciment? He should walk a week in our pants and then make  brash statements. Hope you are well.

Any stat's on getting dry after the year point would be helpful.

Posted 10/31/2009 12:26 AM (GMT 0)
Like everything it varies, I had no control the first few days but pad free in a month. I agree on get rid of the pads asap. The moisture inhibits control in my opinion.
Posted 11/2/2009 2:21 AM (GMT 0)
HEY THERE GUYS ,THIS IS A GREAT SUBJECT , I HAVE ALWAYS SAID THE MIND IS A TRICKY YET POWERFUL THING , IT IS IMPERITIVE  TO TRY TO DITCH THE PADS ASAP. IF POSSIBLE TRY IT  AT HOME FIRST , TRY TO GO ALL WEEKEND , AND THEN GO FROM THERE , I WAS DRY IN 10 WEEKS , AND LIKE LOTS OF YOU I HAD MINOR LEAKAGE , AFTER THAT, COUGH , EXCITEMENT ECT. BUT I VOWED TO NOT GO BACK TO THE PADS, AND THINGS GOT BETTER QUICK , IF YOUR MING KNOWS YOU HAVE A SAFTEY NET , THERE IS NOTHING TO WEAN YOU OFF THE PADS , THIS IS ONLY MY OPINION , BUT IT WS SUCCESSFUL FOR ME , THANKS FOR BRINGING THIS UP  HOPE ALL GOES WELL ...................................DIRT   smilewinkgrin
Posted 11/3/2009 12:07 AM (GMT 0)
Hey dirtmover,

you are the 2nd person to say ditch the pads. I tried this week end and ended up fairly wet. I noticed that you are 43 and the other man was 54. I am 64. I think the age difference may have a factor in the leaking issue. I know the mind is powerful but, so is the bladder. I will continue to try the go without approach at home.

I was hopeing to hear from anyone who actually did get dry after the year mark but I guess that does not happen to often.

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