Dear Scott:
Sorry you have to be here with us but you have found a good place for information and support. The information part is both good news and bad news. First of all you need to realize that most posters here have had surgery and many of them will display a pro-surgery bias. Some of them will readily admit this and some will not. Personally, I had brachytherapy and don't mind telling you that I do have a bias toward that treatment.
Also, most of the information you get here will be good...however some will not. Just on this thread one poster states "...with surgery I would know beyond a shadow of a doubt whether the cancer was gone or had spread. " Unfortunately, that is patently untrue. There are many posters on this forum who have been told by their surgeons that they have "clear margins", only to suffer a rising PSA and recurrent cancer post-surgery.
I do agree with the information that post radiation surgery is problematic. I knew that when I was making my decision for brachytherapy. However, I did the research and discovered that there are many reasonable salvage treatments after radiation that provide the same or better level of success than post surgery salvage radiation treatment. Here is a link to a recent thread that may give you some perspective on this: https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=35&m=1700359
I agree with others that the first, best advice is to take your time and get fully informed. There are many resources referenced on this site that are terrific...use them and learn. This is one of the most important decisions you will make and may affect your life and quality of life for the rest of your life. Either surgery or radiation is likely to cure you. There are pluses and minuses to both and you need to understand them. And, look into color doppler for staging your cancer. I did not know about that when I was researching my options but now I am a believer (thank you, JT) and strongly encourage that.
Make sure you get multiple opinions from surgeons, radiation oncologists and prostate oncologists. Then you will have a wide field of perspectives. Finally, make sure the doc you choose has performed hundreds of procedures in the treatment of your choice. There are many definitive studies linking success to experience.
Good luck and please keep us posted on your journey,
Tudpock