I was disappointed at the long lasting effects of ED after a Radical and then mop up Radiation back in 05. At that time I got a lot of encouragement from individual stories I read at http://www.yananow.net/ They said use it or lose it and after 1 1/2 yrs I thought for sure it was the later; Then it happened. What happened?
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This is what happened: A birthday pool party for a Grandson gets us all together, 20-30 people. My daughter in law is of Cuban heritage. She has sisters. One of those sisters is a knockout and she has a new bikini. Waterpolo in the pool and I'm sitting in the cabana with ice tea watching that bikini. My goodness it starts. It grows, it bulges. it protrudes and felt wonderful but embarrassing. I mean "HELLO BUDDY, WELCOME BACK. WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN SO LONG" I quickly grabbed a towel to cover and went to the bathroom. It went down just as quick as it came up and before I could do anything about it too, darned.
After we drove away hours later, my wife says "Was that what I think it was?" "YES." "Lets go invite him back, I want to see him again."
During those next months he accepted our invitations once in a while and showed up. Each appearance was a surprise because we could never quite figure out how to phrase the invitation.
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Oh, we were bathing and rubbing often. In fact I don't think I ever smelled better, had smoother skin or less hair in my life then right at that time but full relations were rare. The kind of situation where the mind was willing but the flesh was weak continued. But we would exercise and did not give up. I also was taking 1/2 Generic Levitra about twice a week. Some pills from VA and some from http://www.alldaychemist.com/ , which for me they work the same.
We used a pump but in a little different way then some other people I've read about. We don't use the pump immediately before intercourse. We use it to condition of my tissue. I get decent erections now with 1/2 a 20mg Levitra only and no pump. I get 6 free generic Levitra every 90 days from the VA. We use the pump to keep my penis tissues in good condition and able to swell later with the pill.
At that phase my wife surprised me several times when she might bring out the pump and ask if she could do it to me. For her to be so overt tickled me and added another dimension of tension. We and/or I make it an 30 minute exercise routine a couple times a week that goes something like this. Take a warm bath or shower and shave "around" if needed. Skin care with something she likes the smell of, that I can tolerate. Apply pump with lube and raise low vac. only. While under low vac. I do a series of kegels "with a twist" as groups of 10 and then neutralize vac. to 0 each time and rest for a few minutes in between. Usually 100 or so total. Back and forth holding the inner muscles tight enough to make the cylinder bounce. That helps me keep the tissue in decent condition. It goes up and down many times but we rarely go all the way to erection during exercise. Then we stop, clean up and do something different.
I look back on that time now and realize it was a way to build emotional and sexual tension between us. Neither of us knew exactly how things would work out.
Like I said I was a long time coming to full intercourse but with patience things worked out just fine. So I have a different goal when I pump. I also can endorse "All Day Chemist" as a vendor.
How about some of you other guys jumpin in here. How do you use your pump and what is your routine?
I am now 65 and she is 71 but life is full. I am not happy to have cancer but we have found a few "new normal" things to do to make it interesting for both of us.
Best Wishes
Jim