My hope for all is membership in the Zero Club and welcome.
Testing continues to be a challenge each time for me but I do it. Will I ever be casual about that, NO.
The one thing that helped us thru that was the slow recovery of erections. Getting them back gave us something to work on together. ED drugs on a routine basis kept the blood flowing. A VED gave it a place to go and after 2 yrs of attention our efforts slowly returned dividends as we worked to accomplish our present sex life which is not bad.
I use the VED for exercise about once a week and do kegels when it is on. I make the tube jump. Now we have a good result from a 1/2 generic 20mg Levitra only and no pump.