DaSlink: you just have to learn how to sit like a "lady." I told you all this surgery turns us into females! I bet you sat with one leg propped on you knee, very casual and feeling good about
yourself.
Well that did not work out so well. Ok, so now you got yourself some boys underwear and can get down to business.
Seriously for a moment. Thanks for the story. I assume when you say the depends, you mean the full diaper? Just a bit confused because the mens Guard is a Depends product as well. I am guessing before this outing for lunch you got used to putting the pad in the diaper as a sacrificial object and the diaper would just take care of any spill over. I guess I did not provide enough background story to my full pad indicator rant. When I started this mess, I remember having to be really careful about feeling gently for pad fullness. A quick look, a feel through the pocket to check for extreme dampness were all part of the routine. I really hated being so damp that I felt the moisture evaporating around the edges of the pad. As summer turned to fall the coldness made the dampness feel even worse.
I suggest you time your checks when you do things or even when you just sit. Get a cycle going of times you force yourself to look under the hood and check the oil for leaks so to speak. You will figure out just how far a pad goes. I did note that a pad filled quickly does not hold as much as a pad filled slowly. I could get a breach of the pad when leaking fast at 120 ml but later as my leak got slower, I could fill a pad to 180 ml and just be on the verge of leaking. The fluid has time to spread out I guess if you leak slow.
Now, even with far less leaking I have run into a new problem with pads. In certain positions when sitting, I find that my weeping sometimes does not go directly into the pad but lets just say it exits straight up and cascades down over my scrotum. That spreads the wetness out over a wide area and it feels like I am leaking a ton. Weight the pad and it still read a small amount. So I know it is not a big leak just one that spreads out. It's a fabulous feeling, trust me.
OK, using the briefs with Depends Guards: I found a trick that makes them as tolerable as possible for a pad that big. Put the top straight edge of the pad just under the elastic waist band. You still get a good amount of pad underneath you but you don't wind up sitting on it and if anywhere near full have the chance of squeezing it out as you apply pressure on it if you sit on it. Just a little trick but it is a life saver in social situations. Never had a wet seat. At home I did spring leaks but that was outside and only when I bent down on one knee and I separated my anatomy from the confines of the pad. Squirt yourself on the leg due to pressure applied while going down on one knee with your organ out of the pad and you get the idea quickly not to do that.
Patient: Doctor, it hurts when I move my arm this way
Doctor: Stop moving your arm like that
You will get the hang of it soon enough. Oh, last thing, if you are using the Depends guards, make sure the little plastic edges are fluffed up to form a dam around the edge of the pad. I made that mistake and had a few breaches where I forgot to fluff it.
Thanks again for sharing your golden tale.....
Mike S.