36 y/o post rad. prostect

I am 36 and had radical on dec. 20, 12 via robotcis. I have my follow-up at the Pittsburgh VA tomorrow, jan 2. As far as my pain/healing, I am still in some pain, and having a hard time sleeping throughout the night b/c of said pain. I am asking for another script of percocet, but not nearly as many as post-op. I am sure I can handle the pain, but the sleeping is what is hurting the most. Does anyone feel this is a reasonable request?

Now, I had a G6, with one of 10 core being positive. They said should try active survellance, but with my luck I said no. Why? I also have epilepsy that has been controlled since 2006 via lamictal and keppra (300 bid and 1000 bid) which is also why radiation was going to be out of the picture, which they agreed knowing how I feel about screwing up the meds. and throwing me back into a life of hellish uncontrolled seizures (I was uncontrolled from 1994-2006).

Now my concern, as with most I suspect, is erections, orgasms, and incont. During my short time recovering, I feel as though I can 'hold it' fairly well. I am sure we have all had to hold in urination at one point or another, and during this time, I have mentally tried and thus far, if feels like the control is there, but I will not know until my cath is out (tomorrow).

Also, I am have gotten partial erections, and that 'feeling' of hell yea I am turned on already, is this normal this fast?

I know all there is out there to assist with blood flow back to the penis, and am wondering how many have had to, for the most part, has to use assistance on a regular basis, and what is most effective?

I am very open and joke alot about my situation, and for the first time in my life, I know I can deal with lack of sex. My biggest concern is pleasing my future woman. I know if she loves she would be understanding, but what if its impossible or just not pleasurable enough for her? How do I make it better for her?

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

Welcome to HW.

Docs have their own opinion about how long the cath needs to stay in. Mine was 7 days, others have been 3 or more weeks. The important thing is that the urethra is healed properly, as any issue there could be difficult.

The ED following surgery is completely unpredictable when you have some level of nerve-sparing. Some guys have "life" before the cath comes out (not a good thing to encourage), which is a good sign. Some of us are years out and still hoping for any sign. Your situation sounds really good.

You will want to learn about Kegel exercises (we've discussed them a lot here, but you can also find a lot of pages about them on the web). Ask your Uro about his suggestions. If he doesn't have any, or doesn't believe in them, let us know. Lots of opinions on that here.

You may not have any control at the beginning, be completely dry, or be somewhere in between. I had none, and it took months (I'm not dry after 3 years), but a guy who had same surgeon later the same day was dry from day one, never used a pad.

Don't worry too much about sex and partners right now - healing and regaining continence are your issues of the day.

Well, I got the Cath. out this afternoon. As the drive there was painful b/c my dad has some road rage and gets me really nervous, especially driving my car. So, when I made it there, I was in a great deal of pain, almost like it felt the day after surgery. I had run out of percs. a couple days prior, and had been having a hard time sleeping, and I told the dr. such. He gave me another script of them, along with viagra. He told me to take 50mg once/week, and will probably prescribe for a year. He also gave me the pump. I will admit, this is all something I could never see happening as a young man, so its a bit weird.

Now, here's what I am strangely, and a bit scare about. I went out for a few hours after I got home, and of course, did have leaking, but am already learning a bit more control. I took a pill b/c the pain was starting, but not bad. I got home, and decided to see the erection status.

I am worried b/c I had full erection, and achieved orgasm. Is this just way fast recovery, a freak of nature or what?????  I am very happy of course, but what should I take from this?