For DH ......
My background, at least early one, with Advanced Prostate Cancer is very similar to most of what DH has gone thru. I am 70 years old, and was first diagnosed with PC at the age of 60. My first treatments, after a biopsy, a bone scan and consultation with a local highly respected PC Oncologist, was .... first to get external radiation (in 2004) - 5x a week for 5-weeks under the direction of a local oncologist/Radiologist ... then go to the Chicago Prostate Cancer Center for a Brachytherapy using 96-seeds (in 2004). My dealings with a Urologist were pretty minimal.
For 6-years, it did seem as though the combined treatment did work. And by the way, I chose that treatment as opposed to prostate removal because of the studies (at that time) linking incontinence and serious ED to the removal of the Prostate. I was so convinced my cancer was gone, that I did not keep a journal thru that timeframe - just annually had a PSA test.
However, in 2010 ... my PSA started to move up - first just beyond 4.0 at which time I began to think about this seriously. So .... up to this point my treatments and timeframe were very much like that of DH (except I did not see radiation treatments in the past for DH).
One of the first types of treatments, under my new and third Urologist, was to go on Casodex for a few months - and then onto Lupron in late 2011. Here again, are two types of HT that we share in background. My Lupron shots have (after the first two) been every 6-months, so I believe I am getting 45ml twice a year. I have been very fortunate that the side-effects have been minimal ... tired - of course, hot flashes just the first week-end of the first shot, and becoming very emotional.
Now ... the treatment types we have shared changes. I was in the hospital three times in 2011/2012 with essentially kidney failure. From early 2011, I have also been under the care of a good local Oncologist - and his strong opinion was the PCa (advanced PC) moved and blocked portions of the at least the right kidney - starting my kidney problems. So I am sensitive to and understanding of other problems being created by PCa. My kidney problems are under fair control now and have been for about a year.
But ... back to the PCa ... my Oncologist started me on Zytiga (an oral chemo) in early 2012. I was on it for over 5-months, it was not covered well by my Part D Medicare coverage - and it did me no good. My PSA slowly and continuosly climbed during those 5+ months ... and the biggest side effect I had was total apatite loss the last 3 to 4-months on Zytiga. I did lose over 40 pounds - about 15 pounds too much - and my Oncologist took me off that med last July. Please bear in mind - side affects can vary tremendously from one person to another.
The next treatment did work however ...... it was an intervenous chemo called taxotere. Because of the system of delivery (by an IV), I did have to get an medical port put into my chest - a pretty simple day surgery operation. I was on it for 30-weeks ... on 3-week intervals ... so I had 11-treatments. It was fully covered by Medicare - and my PSA moved from 54+ down to 12+ during the timeframe of those treatments. The taxotere can be difficult on your body. With me, the only serious side effect was going on three day cycles of being constipated - then terrible diarrea ... over and over - for about 4- months of those 30-weeks. I did not have aching muscles or bones from this treatment - although some do.
My Oncologist took me off of the taxotere in April because my PSA seemed to bottom out at around 12 ... and I went without any chemo for about 2-months. My PSA climbed from 12+ to just over 23 in just 6-weeks. So ... my next - and current chemo started less than three weeks ago.
I am currently on Xtandi - one of the newer oral chemo drugs (just passed the FDA 11-months ago) ... and don't know what to expect yet. I am scheduled for a PSA test next week. I can say , so far, the side effects of Xtandi have been minimal ... so far!!! The cost is outrageous, but I have found some great avenues for reducing the cost to near zero - thanks to my Oncologists office.
I hope the above medication history gives you some help. We did share many of the same treatments and timeframes until recently. Please put your hands into the best Oncologist you can find - or feel most comfortable with. My experiences have been the Oncologist is running the show ... and the Urologist is a supporting doctor. And I think, I may use a Urologist more than most with PCa because of my kidney issues.
I would not fear chemotherapy ... unless your doctor has a reason to guard you from it. My experience with taxotere was very good - overall. The best of wishes to you.